bluedragon41
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- Somewhere, anywhere, that I can't do the horizontal hokey-pokey on the first date?...Does it seriously lessen my chances of getting a second date?
- How does that happen for you?I put it like this, I usually feel this building flood of feelings-guilt, shame, disgust, sadness, self-loathing.I feel this for a few hours, then I get the why: the actual thing that is returning.Like a scorpion, the...
- I am leaving a 10-year marriage after realizing my STBX was asexual...the emotional issues might have been fixable, but you can't fix asexuality.At any rate, we were together 10 years...and on the night of the breakup she revealed that she was not...
- This would seem to be a better place for it....I'm in a (not exclusive) relationship with a lady who's turned out to be a very, very kind person.It feels...good!And that's frightening....I found myself having thoughts of lashing out at her and...
- I can report that my soon to be ex takes my rejection personally and blames me for wanting to leave...This is hurtful and does not jibe with how I see things...My therapist reminded me that I DID reject my wife. ...My emotionally neglecting,...
- Okay...so I clearly told this really nice lady that I wasn't ready for seriousness, that I wasn't going to be monogamous.She agreed to go out with me on that basis.We're involved.She's worth getting involved with.She says she's ok with it? But she...
- ...Just thought this warranted it's own topic.
- I have asked for a divorce.I think I won't get with anyone else. I came into this marriage with damage, and I felt thankful that anyone would put up with me. Now I'm leaving.I can't be happy with her...because I just can't be happy.I'm an ugly,...
- I'm leaving my spouse because of a number of reasons...There were mistruths on her part that caused me a great deal of damage, I only found out about on the night I chose to end it...I have been with her for 10 years. I loved her, I trusted her. ...
- Well...I joined a dating site...and I am actually talking to a guy. What drew me to him? He can write in grammatically correct sentences.Seems to not be a bad fellow, but he has his own life, and it's full. I'm ok with that, I am *JUST* separating...
- Okay. My wife and I agreed we're separating, going to get a divorce. I've not been doing terribly, but I'm ok. My wife came home from work today.... As I feared, she's depressed. When she gets depressed she loses jobs. She's going to be moving...
- It's true...there is no healing end point, there's no point at which I can be waxed, buffed, and rolled out the door, repaired.I asked for a divorce, it's going to take a while to get as the legal situation's interesting. I have felt obligated to...
- To put up with me now?I have major depression , PTSD, something that looks like Multiple personality disorder lite, Asthma, allergies, and loose skin from having lost a LOT of weight.Basically, being with my spouse is worse than being alone, but...
- I asked for a divorce.I have a clear-cut indication I can't be happy. The emotional stuff might be fixed with a TON of work...the profound sexual mismatch, no, not in a million years of trying.We're both hurting each other, bending ourselves into...
- Yes, I am technically female, and married to another person who is also female. The only thing that's different are the pronouns, really...I've been going through a self-transformation process...and as part of it I have come to realize... I do not...