Healthy Sex Support Group
This community is dedicated to an open discussion about healthy sex and sharing thoughts and feelings about sexuality and improving one's sex life. Most active adults desire to have an active and fulfilling sex life, both for themselves and also their partner. Here we discuss common sexual challenges faced by both men and women.
I am leaving a 10-year marriage after realizing my STBX was asexual...the emotional issues might have been fixable, but you can't fix asexuality.
At any rate, we were together 10 years...and on the night of the breakup she revealed that she was not anorgasmic. She had misled me to believe this.
...That in fact she wanked herself off every couple of weeks...
Which means that she NEVER allowed me to give her an orgasm.
...I now appreciate being allowed to take a partner there WAY more than I did before her.
I have a lady I see regularly and a guy I see once in a blue moon, and it is SO wonderful to hear and see (and smell and taste) the arousal.
What I wonder...how much do you appreciate your partner's sexual responses, as part of making love? I would guess it's about 75% for me now.
Getting off by myself is more intense as far as the org@sms...but...meh, trust me, in the Year Of No Sex, I found out exactly how empty it is.
At any rate, we were together 10 years...and on the night of the breakup she revealed that she was not anorgasmic. She had misled me to believe this.
...That in fact she wanked herself off every couple of weeks...
Which means that she NEVER allowed me to give her an orgasm.
...I now appreciate being allowed to take a partner there WAY more than I did before her.
I have a lady I see regularly and a guy I see once in a blue moon, and it is SO wonderful to hear and see (and smell and taste) the arousal.
What I wonder...how much do you appreciate your partner's sexual responses, as part of making love? I would guess it's about 75% for me now.
Getting off by myself is more intense as far as the org@sms...but...meh, trust me, in the Year Of No Sex, I found out exactly how empty it is.
I am so glad I am out of that, it was ugly!
turning the woman on, and bringing her to orgasms is a really important part of sex for me, as it is for most people.
BOO-BLANKING-HOO!
Now I noticed you find masturbation empty. I'm the complete opposite. I'm always exploring and experimenting with myself. My reactions, listening to my body, trying different things. This is how I learned to have an orgasm that lasts over a minute, and orgasms strong enough for me to almost black out.
But I love sex with a partner more. Sharing what I've learned about myself is freaking amazing.