Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Okay. My wife and I agreed we're separating, going to get a divorce. I've not been doing terribly, but I'm ok. My wife came home from work today....
As I feared, she's depressed. When she gets depressed she loses jobs. She's going to be moving into a spare bedroom in order to save up money for a while.
I told her she ought to see a therapist, she says she did not have the money for that.
I don't want her offing herself. I don't want to toss her out on the street either...I think 18 months ought to be enough time to get herself in gear.
...And I very much feel that I've officially renounced responsibility for her well-being. Before we ended, she had been emotionally neglecting and trampling my boundaries without noticing...She left me to soldier on with very little support through some very rough going.
Combined with the fact that she'd been telling me she was anorgasmic and refusing to let me pleasure her...when in fact she was pleasuring herself for 10 years...and this made me feel like some sort of sex freak for wanting a normal sex life...
Sorry, yeah I'm still...incredibly annoyed and puzzled by it all. But right now I'm living with someone I'm angry at, yet seeing this person in distress.
As I feared, she's depressed. When she gets depressed she loses jobs. She's going to be moving into a spare bedroom in order to save up money for a while.
I told her she ought to see a therapist, she says she did not have the money for that.
I don't want her offing herself. I don't want to toss her out on the street either...I think 18 months ought to be enough time to get herself in gear.
...And I very much feel that I've officially renounced responsibility for her well-being. Before we ended, she had been emotionally neglecting and trampling my boundaries without noticing...She left me to soldier on with very little support through some very rough going.
Combined with the fact that she'd been telling me she was anorgasmic and refusing to let me pleasure her...when in fact she was pleasuring herself for 10 years...and this made me feel like some sort of sex freak for wanting a normal sex life...
Sorry, yeah I'm still...incredibly annoyed and puzzled by it all. But right now I'm living with someone I'm angry at, yet seeing this person in distress.
good luck to both of you.
Regardless of what you two decide, I suggest that you find a counselor for yourself and tell the counselor the full story of just how hard life has been for you for a long time. From there, maybe you can think a little clearer.
Divorce is so hard. Staying together is hard. I hope that you can find something that works.