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Okay...so I clearly told this really nice lady that I wasn't ready for seriousness, that I wasn't going to be monogamous.
She agreed to go out with me on that basis.
We're involved.
She's worth getting involved with.
She says she's ok with it? But she clearly isn't.
...Worse, she's falling for me hard and fast.
...She mistakenly thought I was trying to dump her, and she got teary, and I had to reassure her, no, we're cool...
But now that I think about it, I am feeling trapped, JUST the way I was in my marriage.
Which I just freaking got out of, and am still mourning!
What is my responsibility here? what am I supposed to do? take her at her word? Run screaming?
She's a sweet lady.
I'm going to stick to my word though.
She's going to get hurt, I feel like sh!t about it.
She agreed to go out with me on that basis.
We're involved.
She's worth getting involved with.
She says she's ok with it? But she clearly isn't.
...Worse, she's falling for me hard and fast.
...She mistakenly thought I was trying to dump her, and she got teary, and I had to reassure her, no, we're cool...
But now that I think about it, I am feeling trapped, JUST the way I was in my marriage.
Which I just freaking got out of, and am still mourning!
What is my responsibility here? what am I supposed to do? take her at her word? Run screaming?
She's a sweet lady.
I'm going to stick to my word though.
She's going to get hurt, I feel like sh!t about it.
I agree with rotting...tell her how you feel. You were honest and upfront from the beginning. Keep the honesty.
Beyond that, her feelings are her feelings, and your feelings are your feelings. You're not responsible if she goes off and tries to commit suicide, tries to murder you, or something similarly crazy. Be prepared to change the locks.
"I will not be IGNORED, Dan!" -Glenn Close, Fatal Attraction