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Feeling too broken

bluedragon41
bluedragon41
I have asked for a divorce.

I think I won't get with anyone else. I came into this marriage with damage, and I felt thankful that anyone would put up with me. Now I'm leaving.

I can't be happy with her...because I just can't be happy.

I'm an ugly, shattered thing, and nobody should have to put up with me.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Be strong, read my journal, I am doing a similar thing.... I met my partner very soon after ex walked out. Felt as if no one would want me, was grateful to feel loved but 5 years on I know its not right and I cant spend the rest of my life like this. But its so hard, don't know if I will ever find anyone else and am terrified of being alone. Perhaps we both need to learn to be happy with ourselves first then love may find us.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I agree with hedgehogpa, we all need to love ourselves.
deleted_user
deleted_user
We are and will be how we see ourselves. I think I'm shattered right now too, but as long as we are waking up every morning, there is hope that we can be better, it just takes a lot of will power and Lord knows it's one of the hardest things to do---to try and fight bad feelings and see positive things when we're in such a terrible situation.

You can be a beautiful person inside and out, you can mend the broken pieces. No rush, no pressure, one little step everyday, until you get there. I hope you feel better soon. (((Hugs)))
gem111
gem111
I am so sorry for you to have to go through this. Hopefully this time you will be able to learn to be happy with yourself before you try and find someone else. People actually believe that being married can make a person happy. It took me 15 years to figure out, you can't make someone happy, it needs to come within.
Once you work on yourself, and I suggest you work on yourself to be happy. Go somewhere you want to go every once in awhile. Do something just for you everyday. It can be something small---but in time you will start feeling better.
It's not so bad being single or living alone. I have friends, I can go see anytime. I can go where I want, when I want. I even watch what I want on TV. To tell you the honest truth I've been widowed for 9 (WOW time has gone by fast) years and I have spoiled myself so rotten, living exactly the way I want---after 36 years of living for husband and kids I have no desire in the world to ever lose my freedom again. I deserve it and I've earned every minute of it.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Maybe some therapy would be in order? No one should feel the way you do. It may help to talk to someone about how you're feeling. You may be given a different perspective, or different way of looking at things. You do need to love yourself before you can love anyone else. I am currently working on this. It's not easy.