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- Can anyone help me with some perspective on my situation.My H and I are trying to work thru a lot of hurt on our marriage. He feels that I am the one who has caused the problems ( I grew up in an abusive home and struggle with closeness and...
- I guess I really need to toughen up. Last nite my H tells me how he is working long hours cos he doesn't want to be with me and that he is only staying with me because of the kids. A real blow to the heart. When I tell him how that hurt he gets...
- Just venting, please excuse me for having a bitch session but I am so over it ....We have been building a Chook house as a family project. Every weekend, myself and the 3 kids get out there and work hard helping my H as he builds. It is like torture...
- Went to the local shops today, feeling ok.Parked near a grassy verge and was suddenly overwhelmed with a flashback to 2 years ago when I was sitting on that grass pouring my heart out to a friend on my phone because my H had just come home from work...
- I am really, really struggling to relax and be myself around my H. He has told me so many times over the past 20 years that I am crazy, dysfunctional, don't communicate enough, don't communicate the right way when I do try to talk to him, on and...
- I was just wondering about something that often happens to me. Things will be going along ok (ie: no blowups) then suddenly I will start feeling horribly anxious, scared that my H will blow up at me. The blowup usually follows in a day or two. I am...
- My husband has just shared his feelings with me by yelling at me , demanding that I answer him, following me to the toilet where I was crying and starting at me again, threatening to sleep on the other room, continuing to badger me for an answer...
- Had a lovely couple of weeks, H was sweet and nice, then out of nowhere today Mr Hyde is back, telling me how I don't communicate, don't do this, don't do that.... how I don't understand what it is like to live with me... then when I get upset at...
- Hi, I'm rather new to the whole CoD thing but I am beginning to see how caught up I am in my husbands feelings and moods. If he is happy and talkative I am ok, if he is quiet, my first thought is ' I have done something wrong' even if it has nothing...
- Hi, I am having a lot of trouble determining what is acceptable behaviour. After 20 years of putting up with intimidation and verbal abuse from my H, I feel like the frog that has been slowly boiled, I can't tell whether his present behaviour(...
- Can anyone recommend any books about anger, particularly dealing with suppressed anger? Feel the need to do some reading...
- Hi, just realizing that I am really angry inside to the point of hating my H and wishing he would either leave/die. I am not happy about this, I consider myself a gentle person but I have been stuffing the anger down for 20 years because i have been...
- Dr jekyll has been here for a week, being super nice, patient, the ideal dad. So wish I could believe he will stay. So afraid Mr Hyde is lurking around the corner ready to burst out if I do something (or don't do something) to annoy him. After a...
- Hi everyone, I am here hoping to find help and advice. I suffered from emotional abuse as a child which has left me with an overwhelming fear and inability to open up and share intimately my thoughts and feelings with my husband of 20 years. It has...
- More lectures til 1 am, so tired...anxiety coming back, feel guilty and depressed..After some 8 hours of 'talks' over the last 2 weekends I needed a few days to thaw out and get my head in order ( and have a break from him)I have told him that I am ...