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- I fear my marriage is almost over. Our 20 year anniversary is in two days and my H has been telling me he wants to leave me, find someone else, take the kids away from me. I have been doing what he has asked me and talking to him honestly about what...
- I have always blamed myself for my husbands anger towards me. I have issues with low self esteem and I know this affects him and the whole family and I am working on myself. He gets frustrated when the place is messy because he sees it as a symptom...
- Just how much do we put up with in our codependence that others wouldn't stand for? I am constantly hurt by the way my H speaks to me, it has been an ongoing issue for many years. He says whatever he pleases and speaks to me with discourtesy and...
- Having lived for 20 years in a dysfunctional codependent marriage, I am trying to think of ways to do things differently. I am so oversensitive to my husbands opinion,feelings and perceived feelings that I mostly walk around with my head in turmoil,...
- Can anyone tell me how I can get my husbands voice out of my head. I feel so hopelessly enmeshed. I cannot do anything without hearing his criticism. It is like he is the yardstick by which I judge myself. I cannot make decisions without torturing...
- Hi, I would love some advice from coDs who have been on the recovery journey a little longer that I have.I have recently spent a bit of time apart from my H which has given me a chance to reflect on our 20 year relationshipIn recent years our...
- Had another 'conversation' with H yesterday. Strange how every talk we have had in 20 years has ended up the same : him explaining to me why everything is my fault, getting angry with me cos he had to 'point out the truth' to me again then walking...
- Huge blow up on Christmas Eve, H ended up yelling and swearing, the kids were upset and didn't want Christmas to come.H told me again that I am the one with the problems, told the kids, sorry Christmas isn't wonderful, but 'mum has problems'.But the...
- Got the flu and feel rotten, kids are sick too . Last nite my H comes home from work, complains that everyone is sick, lies on the couch, doesn't offer to help with dinner, lets me do it all myself, doesnt think to clean up the dishes, leaves it all...
- I am having difficulty understanding what is going on in my marriage.I recognize that I have issues with codependency and emotional withdrawal but I truly believe that he has issues as well to do with control and anger.Problem is, he tells me that...
- Tonite my H tells me that somewhere deep down he supposes he loves me. That really hurts. I know he is deeply hurt and angry with me because i have been largely emotionally withdrawn towards him. He says he forgives me but i dont understand how you...
- Sorry, didn't mean to hog the board. Having issues up loading from my iPod. Any idea how I can delete some of those posts?
- Sorry, didn't mean to hog the board. Having issues up loading from my iPod. Any idea how I can delete some of those posts?
- Sorry, didn't mean to hog the board. Having issues up loading from my iPod. Any idea how I can delete some of those posts?
- Sorry, didn't mean to hog the board. Having issues up loading from my iPod. Any idea how I can delete some of those posts?