Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
I was just wondering about something that often happens to me. Things will be going along ok (ie: no blowups) then suddenly I will start feeling horribly anxious, scared that my H will blow up at me. The blowup usually follows in a day or two.
I am trying to understand this, am I picking up on subconscious cues from him that he is on the way down? Am I so enmeshed with him that I am living his feelings? Is it some kind of spiritual connection thing? Does my anxiety actually precipitate a blowup? I hate feeling like this and there is nothing I can do to shake the feeling of impending doom.
Does anyone have any experience of or insight into this? What can you do when you feel this way?
I am trying to understand this, am I picking up on subconscious cues from him that he is on the way down? Am I so enmeshed with him that I am living his feelings? Is it some kind of spiritual connection thing? Does my anxiety actually precipitate a blowup? I hate feeling like this and there is nothing I can do to shake the feeling of impending doom.
Does anyone have any experience of or insight into this? What can you do when you feel this way?
(except for your anxiety precipitatating it)
as for what you can do..
I don't know...head for the hills?????
That's the cycle. If you live it long enough you are sensitive to the smallest sign. I do remember not wanting him to ever think that I was too happy, too secure...that was just a sign to him that he needed to put me in my place.
You can almost predict the next meltdown.
"Meltdowns" are
the NORM.
Happiness can NOT exist
in the universe of abuse.