I have been through this too had my meds changed and back on course (intercourse) oh be careful on coffee consumption

yes, I've been in a totally sexless marriage for 14 years now. I posted on another thread.."His Problem is My Problem", on 5/3. I was hoping to get some feedback from that, but so far have not.

To say it's devastating is an understatement. I'm a totally different person. It's changed who I am for sure and it makes me very sad, to say the least.

I often think he's asexual and frankly with very few options after all this time, I feel totally trapped.

I am also married to a wonderful man with ED. His is psychological; he's been tested for physical problems. We are only in our late 20s and it hurts so badly that we don't have a normal sex life.

We have pills and they do seem to work when/if he takes them. I just feel like he's not working at all on the issue when I am trying so desperately to fix the problem for both of us.

I'm scared we'll never have children. I'm scared he'll never get better. But most of all, I'm scared that I'll lose him because of this.

I don't even know what to do anymore and it terrifies me.

Is he on BP meds drink a lot of caffeine? What pills? Stay with it and him it will work good luck

Thank you so much for taking the time to respond. You have no idea how much it means to me to feel like I'm not alone.

We've tried Cialis and Viagra. Both seem to do the job they are supposed to. He does have caffeine but not a lot. No BP meds.

So is it desire? Has he had his testostrone checked..so with the meds he can complete? I favor Levitra but if the other work ? I guess you might try a different time of day..can you talk with him so he knows how important this is to you?..I undestand completely and hope I am able to give you my input for your benefit

Yes, he has had his testosterone checked and everything came back normal. I don't know that we've tried Levitra. The meds are just so expensive.

We have discussed it on several occasions and after we do he does make an effort for a few days with taking the pills, et cetera. But then he stops again.

I just don't want to make him feel like I'm pressuring him. I don't want to make the anxiety worse by "nagging" him. I just love him and I want us to be okay and to solve this together.

You're certainly devoted ...I recall when it was my issue and I got regular and could complete intercourse twice or three times a week and now the tables have turned and at times ready or not she is not in the mood. Stress can hurt and if here is no desire somehow you must create it..my wife would surprise me with different things sorta like a sexual grab bag and it was fun and my desrire went though the ceiling

Yeah, maybe I should try to be more spontaneous and creative. It seems like when I try things like that he can get an erection. In fact, it's not so much getting one as it is sustaining one in general.

I've never been with anyone with this issue before, so it's a whole new ballgame for me. I'm certainly willing to do whatever it takes to help.

I can't thank you enough for your advice and words of encouragement.

If the meds won't maintain it then if youe willing and he is try a vacum pump..may even save money and no meds I have done both before..and the erection will stay as long as it is desired..my wife helped with it which made it quite stimulating...keep your motivation strong it will all work for you

my fiance' actually thought this would be a deal breaker a year into the relationship. ...its not the sex that matters, its the intimacy and how he handles the problem. but two years later i couldn't begin to count the number of times i have been crushed by his lack of intimacy even after i had been clear numerous times how much i missed him and how it was tearing us apart.

Ask him what expects for the future.

Did you look into my life. I'm married to a man who has ed and does nothing about it. We didn't have sex for years and I've asked for a divorce to many times to count. He refuses to talk to me about it and says that I should use my finger. When we went to therapy I was told I was to fat so I lost the weight and look great.

I so frustrated that he expects me to way years again before he touches me again. We're going to the dr today to see about getting a daily medicine but why is this important to me and not to him?

Chin up..did the doc do any bloodwork? Have you showed him the new you?. This ed is really a sensetive issue if my wife mentions it to me then I am done YOU ARE right it must come from him so try as only a woman can to give him the lead. Boost him up then maybe something else will rise

He did get the his testosterone checked and all the blood work done. He refuses to talk about it but I need to talk to it him about it. I've brought lingerie for the first time in years, I put one on the other night and showed it to him. He walked right by and went to watch the television. Boy did that hurt.

I'm I just a bad wife who would like to have sex more than once (after I threatened to leave) in 4 years. I don't know how much I can stay here saying don't break up the family or your the perfect couple.