Once the penis is pumped up the rings are applied at that time the pump is removed the penis stays hard as the rings stop blood flow..mine stays hard long after our intecourse Tom

Tony,

You said this " Thanks Tom. I did realise it was osbon in the end. However this just seems to be a pump to get an erection."

Yes Osbon does make VED pumps too. But look for the rings that you can buy separately. One website has them for 17.35 each ... buy 3 and get free shipping.

Also you asked: "Does one's wife get involved in the pump?" ...

Yes she can get involved. My wife always would cheer Willie on and ooo and ahh and tap on the tube urging it upward. Whatta gal, huh?

J

Thanks for your advice boys. It has been good.

I have a lot to think about.

I know from personal experience of dealing with my boyfriends ED that the rings work. We don't use a pump. He takes Cialis and then when the time is right he uses the rings to keep the blood flow from leaving. He doubled his erection time alone with the rings. We just got the cheap plastic ones.

We never tried the rings long erm ED eventually erections dont happen at all....
hey Whitt where ya been Hope u guys are ok

Hey Bonnie! I've been good. Had some amazing birthday sex! Hahahaha! I'm still overjoyed, can ya tell? How are you doing girl? Hope all is well!!!

U GO GIRL so happy for u
Me & mine too on our 18th anniversary last week
He has been more attentive then he has in months Hugs kisses etc w/out my initiating it all the time
Come August he will have his insurance and we can get back to the testy shots & I think we will be ok

Wooo hooo! Yay Bonnie I'm so excited for you!!! I know your looking forward to that.

We've been married ten years and have had sex once in the last year. ED/high blood pressure. H is 65, retiring soon, I'm early 50's... He doesn't even touch me anymore and made a sideways comment that it was because of me... ummm, no!

We've had a rocky marriage due to his internet porn addiction -- of course, he sees it as no problem. I left the marriage once because of it, but we reconciled shortly and have been back together for two years.

I fear that he's basically done with intimacy and has no thought or concern that I'm not done. I have no idea how to even open this discussion with him - he keeps saying he needs to get back to his doctor to try something new, but he hasn't. I don't feel like I can open the discussion without hurting him - the last thing I want to do...

So, I wait and wait and 'self-medicate' - I'm too young for this... What should I/we do?

Thanks....

True words..sounds like intervention especially if you can't talk. You can get other ideas but that's what it boils down. I admire you for sticking to it just get some help...it can be fixed and soon you'll be smiling Tom

Hey ya, Zen!

Sorry to hear of your problems. My hubby has had ED due to medical reasons for apx 10 years now. It was a gradual progression. We are now using the pump, waiting on some new c**k rings with much anticipation.

Porn can become a very huge problem. I don't mind my hubby watching porn, but he s not addicted to it. I'm 48 and hubby 49. Some get so caught up in porn that they believe that their partner should be like the ones they see on the porn flicks. We, the truth of the matter is, most men and women do not look like the ones on the flicks nor are they "machines" like the ones who do these.

As far as how to help remedy this situation, maybe you can ask him if he would like for you to make an appointment with the doctor for him. Maybe you can reach over and hold his hand as you fall to sleep at night. Maybe you can show him other ways to be intimate. It is a very delicate and touchy subject, I know. But we have to get creative sometimes. lol

I hope this group helps you. I have found e1 here so very supportive and helpful. Feel free to message me if you need to talk. Hope things get better for you sweetie

Best wishes!!

I think the porn has to be dealt with. It is well known that porn can produce ED when it comes to normal relations with ones spouse. A diversion of the sexual drive takes place onto the women in the porn. Basically it can become a mental adultery and will seriously affect normal sexual relationships. You need to confront this as no matter what he does practically the porn problem will still affect the bedroom in a detrimental way.

I am in a relationship with a wonderful man, I love him with all my heart and would do anything for him. He keeps telling me that it is not me, that this is his problem. How do I make him understand that we are a couple so we need to work together to find a solution. I know how excited he gets and how frustrated he ends up. If I could fix this for him I would. I do not know what to do. Any suggestions?

Hi everyone... My husband & I have been married for 13 years. The first 11 years or so the sex was amazing... but for the past year and a half he has been experiencing ED. At first we thought it was stress... but it kept occurring more and more frequently. It's now to the point where sex just creates tension so we try to avoid the topic. He does not have insurance, so he hasn't seen a doctor. Plus.. he's embarrassed and we are both totally frustrated! I don't talk about this with anyone because I don't want anyone to know. We don't talk about it because it usually leads to arguing. He is not totally unable to gain a very small erection, but it's never enough for intercourse.

Yayaof1... I completely understand your post. My husband will also feel very aroused, yet frustrated when the erection is not there. I am to the point where I don't want to start anything because it usually ends up with him feeling embarrassed and both of us frustrated. We have tried other methods.. phone.. messenger chat.. just to be adventurous.. but we're still missing that bonding we received from each other during intercourse. Not talking about it.. or arguing about it just makes it worse.