I favor levitra and of course the pump...no porn little coffee no stress. The pill has failed in the past but the pump with 2 rings NEVER FAILS...listen to the folks here and some of what I presented and you'll do fine. Thanks for caring enough to check it out. Tom

Hey ya, again, sweetie!

Yes, ED has a tremendous emotional effect on both partners. It can take a toil on one's psyche fast. BUT, you 2 seem to have the key to working thru this; you openly talk. It is great that he showers you with attention and affection.

Now, what Tom said is absolutely right. The pump and 2 cock rings applied will do the trick. These are relatively inexpensive compared to the price of the medications; especially when "the pills" can 'let you down.' Also, you can purchase some sex toys to use in your love making. I know they can't replace the real thing, but it helps. Sometimes, when hubby is using toys or watching me use toys, he gets a good erection. There are many solutions to this illness.

You asked, does it ever get better. If you are referring the mental stress ... then yes, considering that you both are open and honest about ED, and yes because he showers you with affection. Can ED get better? Well that depends on the reason for it in the first place. It has been about 4 years since hubby and i have started to battle ED together, and the other night he was able to achieve an erection without other stimulation. So, the can it get better, really depends on the cause and ability to "relax the brain"

Hope this has been helpful.

Several comments back it was brought up that knowing your boyfriend or husband (with ED) masterbates but otherwise is reluctant to have sex with his gf/wife. Masterbation can be seen as cheating on your partner, but I want to explain another possibility. ED can leave a man not knowing what feels good anymore. He has to re-learn how his body works and what is pleasurable. It can be embarrassing to not know what you never seemed to have a problem with in the past. It can be a whole lot more comfortable to re-learn this stuff when you are alone. If it goes on too long then I'd have to wonder, but it does serve a good purpose. Also, erections are a way to provide blood flow to the penis which is one reason why they happen throughout the night. A man who has ED will need to self-stimulate if nothing else. That will lead to better blood circulation in his penis. These are steps along the way to re-gaining your sex life.

In my experience when I did masturbate and viewed porn my intercourse erection was non existent.......it wasn't until I stopped that I could start on my road to intercourse...in fact for me oral also was not of help towards intercourse. I had to teach my body that there was only one possible release......intercourse. this is my experience and today I have regular intercourse.....but no other form of release

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Try double penis rings. The rubbery synthetic ones. it worked for me.
You space them apart. I got the suggestion a little further back on this thread and it worked for me.

Sometimes the problem is men using porn. That is almost guaranteed to affect erections as the sexual drive has been diverted to the porn. A kind of mental adultery if you like. Other practical answers have been given on this thread. the one that helped me is double penis rings.

Hey guys, I went with my man to see the urologist again for the follow up after being given the daily cialis for us to try for the last couple weeks. Our love life has improved and things seem to be on track, HOWEVER, he had taken a testosterone test and we received something in the mail stating it was within the normal range, but when we got to the doctor's office and we met with him, he mentioned that it was a little low as far as the range is concerned. Normal I guess is from like 299 to 1500. My hubby's was about 400. I saw his frustration on his face and it concerned me a LOT so I asked the doc to reiterate what the range was and explain to him that he is still in the normal range, and he did but as many of you ladies already know from what I have read, he felt very VERY attacked by this number and insulted and hurt and felt horrible about himself. I have told you guys I am trying to conceive and the doc knows this and is a fertility expert, well anybody knows that if you take sythetic testosterone it is like chemically castrating yourself, the doc looked at both of us and said "now correct me if I am wrong, your goal is children, correct?" My man said "YES" and this was really important to hear him say as he already has 3 children from the exwife and another child from a previous relationship, we ar childhood sweethearts and I love him more than I have ever loved somebody and it means a LOT to me that we have a child/family of our own in addition to my daughter and his 4 children... Well the doc told us about something made by Gaia, called "Male Libido" and told us that we should try this because it is herbal and won't feck up his sperm count like the synthetic testosterone will. He asked if kids were the main goal and then told him "I hesitate to give you any testosterone because it will lower your sperm count, why don't you try x, y, z herbal supplement...." you get my drift...
Anyway, while laying in bed tonight he was talking about this supplement and mentioned he would be happy to take the synthetic testosterone shit and he didn't believe it would lower his sperm count but "he can't take it because of what I WANT and what I TOLD THE DOC about ME wanting a BABY".

I am so hurt by this comment. I am so fecking ANGRY that he would say that. Listen, I know he is hurting and this testosterone thing is really a crappy thing for him but shit, at least it is a little more insight into why the ED may be happening, right? He also lifts weights, that is his "thing". I know the doc said that would increase his testosterone and then we have to get these stupid pills. Has anybody taken this Horny Goat Weed or Maca? It is my understanding that this "Male Libido" contains Maca root as a main ingredient. I am asking because the doc specified that particular brand. We don't have a lot of money so it is important we get the most for our buck.

Damn guys, why would he say it like this about us trying to have a baby. He has been on board this whole time, and I even asked him that morning when we left the Doctor's office "You will wait to take the testosterone, won't you honey?" and his response was "Of course I will!" I was so happy with him, now I just feel like shit.

What can any of you tell me about the testosterone levels and them being on the low side of the within normal range? Man I love him so much but he is really outstanding in the "let me hurt your feelings" area.

Thanks guys, really!

Hi bamoore...

In my opinion, male libido pills or any type herbal pills don't help like that and it's just a waste of money. Why do you think none of them are FDA approved? I tried all that stuff in my time and it does nothing.

I also have testosterone level in the 400 and my doc also will not prescribe testosterone treatment because he says I'm considered normal. Besides, too many bad side effects with testosterone treatment so I'm not eager to take it anyway. However, I still have a desire for sex but my performance anxiety gets in the way. I've taken meds on/off throughout my life and sometimes the experience was great/bad. I also recently discovered I experienced some penile trauma years ago and that possibly is the main reason for my erectile issues over the years. But the good news is that I started taking cialis on a regular basis and my erections been great! I mean I couldn't believe I had this one female recently give me oral and my penis remain erected (pointing to the ceiling) the entire time LOL. It's been years since I've seen my penis do that! I have decided to accept my new ED life. My doc presribed me for Cialis daily (2.5 mg everyday... 30 pills for $150/mo.) I can afford that!

Oh, I also reduced masturbation and masturbating to porn because I found out that overrides your true sex libido with a real woman LOL. visit yourbrainonporn.com for more details...

The truth is that your man wants sex but all the failure attempts are bringing him down emotionally to the point he doesn't want to be bothered.

Thanks for the advice there my friend. I have a new "crappy thing" that happened. My man has some issues and is taking a mood stabilizer and he needs this stuff, badly, he quit taking it before we moved in together because of the sexual side effects and I am grateful for that but then he started having anger issues so went back on the meds, things on that front apparently have started affecting his libido. We did buy the Gaia stuff I was mentioning, this is the first day he's been on it.
Guys, tell me about libido. I am so confused now, he can get it up but now our 3 times a day thing has become a "non-thing". Obviously this frustrates me to no end as he and I have always been on the same page there, it is something we really enjoyed, especially after taking the cialis, that was great for both of us. What can I do to help him? I love him so much but I want a baby, I can't imagine what this is going to be like when we are trying to concieve. Oh Lord! I tried to tell him last night that there was a corellation to ED and Porn, he dismissed me very quickly. How can it be that I spend all this time looking up this stuff about "his:" body but he doesn't look anything up???? wtf? lolo

Thanks to all of you that have reached out to me. Really, I thank you!

So my night just keeps getting better! This time he is being romantic and sweet and then he does not finish, it is the newest edition to this cluster screwed thing that seems to be all encompassing, ED/psychotropics=low libido and now the shit hits the fan with the low testosterone. Seriously, I am so sad right now I can't handle it!
I have tried to talk to him but he just gets more and more angry and this sex issue is driving a wedge into our relationship and I am very lost and confused and he just screams at me and tells me I am stressing him out. I am simply trying to talk to him as I have nobody else to talk to about this issue. I am so overwhelmed and feeling very alone and I shouldn't. I am really worried we will never have a baby now. Things that used to just happen naturally are not happening anymore. I did manage to tell him I loved him and told him I needed him to try and talk to me but he just gets more and more mad and I have nobody to turn to.

Why do I feel so alien? Why do I feel so alone when what I truly want is a hug from my man? I asked him for a hug and he hollered at me and said I was stressing him out and all he was "is an alarm clock and a dick". This couldn't be further from the truth as I love him implicitly but he doesn't believe it I guess. I am so sad.

What do I do? How do I get this man to communicate with me?

I agree about the porn. It is like a mental adultery and will definitely affect the sex in a marriage. Some men cannot rise to their wives because their minds are full of the women on the porn. Some are even addicted to it and their marriages are virtually over. This is serious stuff and not a game.

I had a bit of ED. Age related I think. I just used two rings which seem to work. I only needed one last time. Attitude helps a lot. Not to worry too much about it. Excercise and rest at the opportune time hels as well. Pressure is okay but stress is not.

@bamoore...

You need to really give "attempting" sex a rest for right now. I'm talking about a month just to calm things down between you and your husband. Believe it or not, this situation between you and your husband is equally stressful. The more he stresses out about this the more he wants to keep away. Just abstain from sex for like a month. Only let him attempt sex when he feels he is ready. If nothing happens after a month we will have to think of a plan B. But for now, just chill out with sex.

ALSO, it is very important that your husband does not masturbate or watch porn for the next month too, Either one or both can throw off his sex libido and this will not help the situation.

That sounds like good advice to me. We need to be in control and not at the mercy of our sexuality. In the end I think that is better and more creative.

That sounds like good advice to me. We need to be in control and not at the mercy of our sexuality. In the end I think that is better and more creative.