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- Not far... just a tiny bit. Need someone to hold my hand and tell me to stay the heck away from Facebook.I haven't gone, but I had this urge to go peek in on the OW. I know it'll send me down a slippery slope and serves no purpose, and I also know...
- This is a question that comes up over and over again in different forms. "How do I stop hating the AP?" "How do I stop being so mad?"The truth is, it's a form of grieving and the only way out is through, BUT - some of us DO get "stuck" (I did!) so...
- OR: just go to the terminally ill section of the card store. Same thing?http://happyplace.someecards.com/cheatin/a-guy-found-out-his-dad-was-cheating-so-he-gave-his-mom-this-sympathy-card/We need to start a line of cards. We could make bank.
- I stumbled upon this list here: http://www.kathilipp.com/2014/10/10-things-say-text-husband-marriage-hard/I won't lie, reading through these, there were a couple that I thought, "But I DON'T feel that way..." which drove me back to my bad habit of...
- Oh, heck. I'm gonna do it. I threatened to, tossed the idea around, gave up on it, and I'm back here again, so I might as well. In light of the "why commitment sucks" article, how about a positive spin?How has commitment/marriage bettered you as...
- My husband started IC a little over a month ago. It was... sort of odd. Sort of out of the blue. And honestly, it set off a whole slew of alarm bells in me because it was SO out of character. The first time I asked him to go to counseling with...
- Got your attention, didn't I?I hate this. I hatehatehate it. It bugs the crap out of me when folks on the infidelity board go on and on about how cheaters are innately "bad" and always have been bad and always will be bad. Seriously? On a...
- One of my favorite Pet Shop Boys songs is "Jealousy". (woo... yeah, dating myself, but onward I plow...)Something that comes up heavily during recovery from infidelity is frequently having to wrestle with Jealousy. I wanted to share some of my own...
- I am not ok. Seems the downward spiral has continued ever downward. There are a lot of reasons for this and I won't bore everyone with all of them. Mostly, I thought there might be some folks here who could offer some advice and suggestions to...
- [insert much barfing here]Just once, I want him to use the words: I AM HERE. I've got your back. I'm on YOUR team.No, not just once. All the time. [/drive by emotional puking]
- So... the post that was deleted (I didn't get to read the whole thread so I don't know what went down) seemed like a cautionary tale to begin with. Hey... this happened to me, it could happen to you, be forewarned... sorta thing.I find myself in a...
- As usual... I'm back this time of year. This is what... my third year running?(a quick disclaimer... this is mostly me just emotionally puking, but I am happy to take advice)And yes, it's about our wedding anniversary. It's already such a...
- There are always conversations that get tossed around (or at least comments) about how the CS was "selfish" and the BS was "selfless". Givers/takers, etc. The basic theme is, at some point, a cheating spouse said, "I want to be happy and this...
- Hi all. Sorry for intruding, but I was hoping for some insight on something my husband can't/won't articulate for me.Clearly, betrayed spouses are lied to. Most of the lies seem to be to cover up the affair, though sometimes there are other lies...
- Nothing specific, just a bunch of tiny triggers that piled up with PMS, lack of sleep, and chronic pain. I went to the chiropractor and huz didn't come in to see him with me. "Have fun," he said, flipping through a magazine in the waiting...