I stumbled upon this list here: http://www.kathilipp.com/2014/10/10-things-say-text-husband-marriage-hard/

I won't lie, reading through these, there were a couple that I thought, "But I DON'T feel that way..." which drove me back to my bad habit of needing to be RIGHT more than wanting to be HAPPY. Ooops. Enlightening. At least I'm working on it, right?

I have tried texting a few of these to Huz over the last couple of weeks. We're not in a bad place, but definitely things have been harder lately.

(In case you don't want to click the link, here's the list.)

“What do you need from me right now?”
“How can I help you take some of the burden off today?”
“I’m sorry.”
“Thank you for_____________”
“I’m proud of you because________________”
“Our kids are lucky to have a dad like you.”
“Please forgive me.”
“I love you because___________”
“I’m going to make more of an effort to____________”
Thank you for being someone I can respect.

I certainly think this list could go for the husbands to say to their wives, too, with minor adjustments. "How can I help you today?" "I'm so glad you're the mother of my children" etc.