Allora
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- This is sort of a series of interesting observations...ANGER is a prevalent feeling in situations of infidelity. It's no wonder, since anger tends to be a secondary emotion triggered by jealousy, desperation, fear, etc. How that anger is directed,...
- I'm always looking for new/unique ideas. I hate feeling stuck in a rut. Huz and I spent our first year of recovery going on weekly dates and on monthly nights (or weekends, if we could swing it) away. Now we are slowly reverting back to doing...
- You all see it unrolling. As someone else aptly said, it feels like a thunderstorm... No. That's not a thunderstorm, it's the sound of of a stampeding troll. He is only one man-child throwing a tantrum. We are many and our courtesy and kindness...
- So... guess who joined DS?http://www.dailystrength.org/people/2544914Def unexpected and sweet. We recently had a discussion in which he told me - in no uncertain terms - that he loved me and would do anything for our marriage, but that he had no...
- I've known a lot of folks on this site over the last year and a half. Most have gone their own way and moved on to other things. A good portion of them stop coming by because it's too much of a trigger reading the fresh pain of those newly...
- My best friend joined the club... this club... the one we never would wish on anyone else.My heart breaks for her.She and her husband are going to try to work on things. I guess at least I'm in a good place to hold her hand and walk with her on...
- One of the best tools I have found in my own personal healing has been to focus on the NOW. What's bothering me in this moment - and not what's bothering me now and how it's related to every bad thing (huz's affair included) in the past. A friend...
- 18 years ago today I was a young blushing bride. There was a blizzard that day and my biggest concern was whether or not guests would be able to attend and where to keep them all if they couldn't get home.I didn't think about fidelity. I wasn't...
- Our 18th anniversary is coming up on the 7th. Huz isn't very skilled with planning these types of things and I find myself frustrated and hopeless and even impatient. Last year, I planned and executedy own birthday celebration so he wouldn't drop...
- I know that there are several websites where one can report cheaters - some as all inclusive as having photographic and/or email proof, the cheater's name, and their location. Is there any benefit to these types of sites and those types of actions? ...
- I'm having a rough day. Huz was patient and loving and kind before leaving for work - it's not him. Yet again, this is me in my head. I don't want to live in my head anymore.H kept asking what I needed. I don't have an answer. I don't know how...
- I actually wrote this in my journal, but I wanted to share a slightly abbreviated version here. I always like reading about the GOOD moments as well as the bad as a reminder that they DO happen. (Especially when I'm at my bleakest and I feel there...
- Dec. 5 (2 years since DDAY) is fast approaching and I feel the bottom of my emotional boat leaking. Just came by for some virtual hugs and reminders that, well, it's just a date.
- What are your thoughts? I know this has come up in various places in the past regarding infidelity, but a lot of the topics were years old, so I wanted some fresh insight.I've only done a little bit of research. Some people say they're stupid...
- I know we've discussed this here ad nauseum, but I want/need a refresher course.Interestingly, my obsessive thoughts aren't about the OW and my husband, but rather just about the injustice of the whole situation. How dare she be happy!? How is it...