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- We went to therapists almost 6 years ago. He went to SA group, I joined cosa and saw my own therapist. I had a grand mal seizure in 2012 that knocked out a lot of my memory (was in water for some time). I had this gut wrenching feeling I kept trying...
- Is it? Do we just want to blame it on an "addiction"? Can it just be put upon "boys will be boys" and the idea that it is normal for guys?What is it that we are fighting against? Is it our insecurities or their abnormalities about themselves?I've...
- I haven't posted a question here for a long time, maybe a year. But, I need to know from those whose spouses have gone through the recovery stages and have relapsed or had a slip. I am curious as I'm noticing some changes in my SA spouse who's been...
- I've been around, but not for the last 11 months. I can't really write now, as i am totallly discovering all of this...but, what do I do when I truly believe he is my soul mate, the one I am to grow young with,grow old with, grow wise with, and to...
- I want to know other's honest experiences as i've been going thru this, but triggered upon lately.If he was wanting to "be intimate" almost a week ago, and still haven't, what would you think? We've had a bad cold go through the family, but still....
- I've been pondering about this lately, wondering about how honest H is with me when I asked him about his usage of the computer porn, about when he started searching online again for it, etc etc. My Q is more of a technical one....7 years ago we...
- I'm wondering myself. I've been finding myself at wits end lately, putting pieces together...the stupidest lil triggers that just set me off.I'm finding that after 6 months into his recovery (see my latest journal entry from last week), where I'm...
- I've been pondering about this lately. I know forgiveness lets go of the anger we have within ourselves, but yet do we "owe" that to the SA for all the hurt they caused upon us??Is forgiveness more for them, or for us? WHY should I forgive H for...
- this is a topic of discussion with my therapist. This is how she put it. We talked about my desire to get back at H. Not for what he's done necessarily, but for him to feel my pain. I told her in return that I know forgiveness lets go of the anger,...
- I've been reading, we've been talking..more of me talking to H...we are both in therapy now. It's been 2 months since I last discovered the porn on the computer, but only a month at best since I put together the pieces that h never stopped at his...
- H started seeing a SA therapist almost 2 months ago. maybe 1 1/2 months. Not really sure. Anyways, I just started seeing my own separate one this past week. Am going to see another one soon just so I can talk to two different ones who specialize in...
- after me discovering and putting pieces together, I finally realized that H truly never stopped. From using the tv/on demand, phone internet, computer internet, our dvds....now that I've blocked his use, how will I know if he stops at the adult...
- I received the eight books that I ordered for both me and h to read today. I scanned through them before going to work tonight, and took "sex, lies, and forgiveness' to the gym after work...I started back to the gym this week to help rid me of the...
- I researched and got my H to a great therapist who specializes in SA. I saw he had the book, amongst several others..."out of the shadows" by Patrick .....(?) I can't think of his last name right now. H really likes him, and the therapist wanted me...
- My story is long, but I caught porn on our computer almost 7yrs ago. Then again almost 5 yrs ago. Now, again a month ago. Time before last he swore it would never happen again, he swore he'd tell me if he relapsed, he'd spend the rest of his life...