I am only 32 I feel as though I should not be going though this now, and I hate it when my H try to make me ashame for wanting to be intimate. I feel like I am reaching the end of my rope. I had a sex life before him and I mourn its passing.

I'm a newlywed whose sex life is non-existent. Trying to conceive on top of that, and I can't get my DH to have sex more than once a month. Even once a month it is only for a few minutes and he loses his erection. I'm humiliated, sad, and depressed thinking of my life with him - if this is how it is now, imagine when we are 50! or 60! Don't know what to do!

Can you discuss this with him?

My guy has medication but refuses to try it. He says he is afraid to use it. His testosterone level is normal. He says he is "broke". The only time we try to have sex is when I beg him. He changes the subject often, says he is tired, yet says he is aroused. I am so mixed up on what is going on with us.

Trying wearing sexy appearal but don't say anything avoid you taking the lead..wait for him to come to you

If I waited for my husband to come to me I would die a very very old woman (frustrated sexually of course).

Well perhaps he wants the lead

At my home nothing happens without me starting it.

Please don't. Quit..I did that for a year and it was not helpful

i told my bf after many nights of feeling like it was me what i needed and we do try different toys and to keep humor also. tantrick sex has been hugely helpful. its his attitude of keeping things fresh and that i am desireable is where it seems to be most important. help make me feel sexy..

Sounds better is it?

wow I thought I was the only one with this problem! I've been married for 3 years, we've been together for 6 and the last 2-3 years we've been having problems with this. He's never had problems with this before so I feel like it's me! Yes, I've gained a few pounds since we've been married. I'm sick of throwing myself on him too! I'm tired of the rejection, we have sex maybe once every two months now, and he seems totally OK with that! I'm 29 and he's 34 and I'm ready to have kids (I don't have any). Everyone keeps asking me when we're ganna have kids. He's the only person I've been with (sexually) and I'm not ready for a sexless marriage. Should I leave him? I don't know what to do!

I went off for a year with no sexual contact and no matter what she said I stiill did not respond. after my year vacation I was more than ready to go still i had ed issues. so for my life and wife I try twice a week and been doing that for years....I think it is more a matter of motivation than desire

Well I'm not a wife with a husband. I'm a man. However, it is kind of sad (emotionally) to see what women go through when us men have our problems. I was in the same situation with my wife, and feel sad for putting her through all of that. Has anyone here tried a pump therapy system for their husbands?

I am 39 and my husband is 56. A little over six years ago he was diagnosed with type 2 diabetes and hypertension. The medicine has caused him to have ED problems. He has the desire and he has organism, but I dont. I constantly relieve him of his stress, however because he knows his penetration does nothing for me he has given up being intimate with me. We have had sex about 7 times this year. I recently asked him if he had considered a penile implant. That conversation did not go over very well. I don't know what to do. I desire intimacy and would like for him to contribute to me having an organism every now and then.