Really? I didn't even know injections were an option. If I may ask...does this help your libido and function? Do you find your drive to be what it was before low T?

Yes, my libido is much higher since being on the Testosterone injections. It kicked in like the next day of starting the therapy. It was that noticeable.

The ED is a different story. I've been on the therapy for about a year now and the ED issue is now slowly going away. I take a small amount (5mg) of Cialis to help out and it works very well. Sometimes too well. :)

I have tried all three ED pills and had stomach problems. I found that if I take two Zantac tablets and drink at least 8 ounces of water with it about an hour before I take Cialis I do not get heartburn. My stomach already produces a lot if stomach acid and had some acid burns to intestine just past stomach. Now good if I do the tablets, water and sometimes milk or buttermilk. to reduce acid indigestion.

Viagra and Cialis worked for my husband but it was getting really expensive. We started looking for nonprescription alternatives online. One called Stree Overlord was working but then it stopped working. I suspect from reading other forums that it is because most of them on the market are now counterfeit. Also, the FDA found the active ingredient of Viagra in it. We then switched to NiteCap-X. It works great for him. His erections are super solid and he actually needs to have sex a few times a day when he takes it. I do believe that it is a little too potent, so we alternate from NiteCap-X, Cialis, and Viagra.

Nitecap is some expensive stuff. I'll stick with the generic Cialis.

It is a very painful issue for both....but it seems I am more effected by it than him....almost like it doesn't matter to him if we have intercourse or not.....my self esteem has taken numerous hits lately......as understanding as I try to be...it still hurts!

I am a male 76, married and have permanent ED prostate removal, cancer. It was up to me to get my hand around the problem. Drugs will not work for me. Nerve removal. Vacuum pump works well "IF" erection is lost due to venous leakage. ED males should use at least once a day to keep penile smooth muscle oxygenated and flexible. Good blood and blood flow is mandatory for erections, plus good mental sexual thoughts. Good pelvis and leg exercise creates penile blood flow. I use a vibrator like a bicycle seat to stimulate blood flow. Also around penis (carefully). An andrologist is a specialist in erection problems.

I'm glad I found this group. I just feel like crying tears of frustration. My SO and I have been together officially for only 6 months, but we've known each other for years. There has always been amazing chemistry between us, in the past we've had amazing fooling around sessions that did not involve actual intercourse, but since we've started dating nothing. I've had many conversations with him. I realize that largely it is a medical problem and working in healthcare I get that, but the intimacy is gone completely. He has a routine in the AM he gets up watches porn while masturbating and that's fine but it means i wake up alone in the bed to him looking at porn stars and cam whores every morning. I have said something to him about this so for a while he tried hiding it from me which I explained 1. I knew he was still doing it and 2. It hurt more that he snuck around me. He says only taboo things turn him on, as in moral compass breaking taboo. We are both active participants of BDSM, we don't even connect that way. I honestly, just do not know what to do at this point, communication on my end has been 110%, it just seems like he doesn't want to try. I am the same as I was before we started dating, and I feel like he doesn't even find me attractive. This sucks because we are so very deeply connected in every other way. He had a heart attack and bypass surgery a year ago and his doctor gave him cialis but he is terrified to take them. Any other suggestions. Really knowing I'm not alone makes me feel better.

OMG! I understand almost every post here! I feel like I'm no longer "doing it" for my husband. I try and be supportive, and meds do help, but I miss spontaneous sex. It is very hard on a woman's self-esteem, even if you KNOW it is, as the commercials say: "a matter of blood flow..." Sometimes I feel like I could walk around naked and he wouldn't even notice. And then, of course, even though I intellectually know there is a physical reason for this, I feel like it's my fault...What am I lacking that he needs to take a pill to respond to me? This sucks. So glad to read that others are feeling the same way...

Being a man and dealing with this issue it isn't easy. We tend to try sweeping these issues under the rug and go on with our lives, not realizing how it effects our SO's.
Communicate and keep communicating with him is the key and hopefully he can deal with the issue.

Took about a year for me to come around and since doing testosterone shots and on Cialis I'm a much better with my wife. :)

I know its hard for him but sometimes I feel like its all about him and his feeling regarding his ED... meanwhile I'm living in a marriage where I feel physically unsatisfied and emotionally beaten up. Pills aren't working testosterone levels are up but he's not..... Not only am I dealing with a lack of physical intimacy and satisfaction I am also dealing with his depression over it. I feel very alone and quite frankly out of options. I'm 36 and asking myself how I am going to handle being sexless for the rest of my life. I know there are other ways to be intimate but to be totally honest its just not the same.

I had weak erections because of my stressful work and my sex life began to worsen. Then I decided to go for VIAGRA which was a great decision. It helped me get things to normal and saved my marriage.
Now I take Viagra just ocassionally, I do not need it every time I make love to my wife. However my erections are much harder now and my libido a lot higher!
I would recommend Viagra to your hubbies too. It's a real help. Here a safe site to order it online without a prescription - www.viagranow.biz

Feeling awful. I've been talking to my hubby about ED for years. He always said it was my imagination. I always knew better. Now he can't deny it. We are unable to have sex at all. He won't consider an implant. Meds not working. He told me I would have to learn to deal with it. Sent me into immediate depression. I can count how many times I've had sex this year. I'm not upset that he has the disease. I'm frustrated that he's giving up an leaving me unfulfilled. I'm still pretty young and attractive. I have needs and I'm fearful. I have to remain faithful, but I feel he's playing with fire each time he refuses to try.

Hi Gladiator,

Has your husbands testosterone levels been checked? The loss of libido is a indication of low T.

What meds has he tried for ED?

And on any other drugs (like for BP or depression)? These can have an effect on libido and erections.

At one time I was like your husband and my wife finally talked me into seeing a urologist. Low T was my problem. With Testosterone injections and Cialis my wife can't keep up with me now! :)

My husband and I have been together for over 15 years, but last year was the last time we had sex and he has no interest since. We tried Viagra but it didn't work. I have tried asking him for cuddles and little signs of intimacy, but he still ignores me. I have told him its not about the sex I just need him to show me occasionally that he still finds me attractive, but he wont. He has normal testosterone levels, and is in perfect health but it just isn't happening. When I try talking to him about it he gets angry and tells me I should find some one to have sex with because he cant do it. I don't know what to do next. Anyone have any suggestions?