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- Me ex and i had a very amicable negotiation during our divorce. We didnt even use a lawyer and agreed on everything, including that i could pay him equity in the house if i sold it. During our marriage his complete refusal to be responsible with...
- Realization this morning. I've been very guarded with a new beau who wants to make things very regular - seeing each other 4 or 5 times a week. Why am I so insistent we slow down? Because I realize at this point of life I am not just "me" like I...
- This is a piggyback off the topic "what men want." I am wondering if financially equality is a precursor to happiness in relationships at our age no matter if it's the male. or the female. I have met a men who make quite a bit less than me, who...
- Struggling lately again. For 23 years he was the one I came into he was the one I talk to when I was upset he was the one who comforted me. I know it's been 2 1/2 years but I still haven't found anyone to fill that spot. don't know what to do with...
- I am an idiot! I like to say the ex is the idiot but it's me. He finally got on FB after 6 years of making fun of it. And he friends all my "our" friends. Then he requests me! I debate for a day before curiosity grabs my common sense And I accept. I...
- I've given hardly any thought to moving since my ex moved out a little over two years ago. I like the house for the most part. It's convenient to work, kids still with me sometimes, neighbors are good, convenient to biking paths, etc... But...
- Two different friends in one week made the same comment to me: " do you think you and "ex" will get back together some day". It's painful to hear that, but the reason they say it, is not because they don't see how hard the cheating was, but because...
- Hi all. I've been seeing someone for approx 6 months. At this point, although we connect on a mental level, are physically attracted, have similar humor and some common interests, I am feeling a distinct lack of emotional connection. He is not...
- Have you ever randomly thought back to a time during your marriage when suddenly you see that moment in a completely different light, now that you know your ex cheated? He admitted plenty during the last few years, but naturally I assume there was...
- Tell about how therapy has helped you? Or not helped you? I went to about 3 or 4 sessions early on, and the therapist thought I was doing so great and so did I. But as we all know, this goes up and then it goes DOWN, each time a little less low,...
- This might be a rambling post. I'll try not to though! I have been feeling so isolated lately. I can't figure out what is prompting it after such a long time. I've been separated almost 2 years, and divorced since July. I have been seeing...
- I got married 23 years ago today. It's the first anniversary since my divorce. Last year we were separated and made the weird decision to have dinner together. It was just sad and awkward and I filed a few days later. Today I just feel kind of...
- I never did any purposeful drastic changing up of my house to "rid my ex's presence" right off the bat. In fact, I didn't want to cause major upheaval. But, Of course, gradually I did remove photos of him and filled up his closet space with my own...
- I spent this week at work with a group of mostly 35-45 year olds. (So, a bit younger than me). They are all in that happily married stage of life with kids and busy lives. Not to insinuate that they will all divorce later, but gosh I get so...
- Last year I went to a close friend's holiday party alone and left in tears after I realized it was all couples and I felt so sensitive and out of place, even though everyone was perfectly pleasant. This year I dreaded the same party invitation, but...