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- So I’ve been thinking a lot about this respect thing and what it comes down to is that my relationship isn’t the typical codependent/narcissist dance. He is not a narcissist and I’m not a loyal innocent victim. If anything, he risk and lost...
- Seriously, I'm kind of stuck on this. I looked up YouTube videos and online articles on respecting one's self, and I know it involves things like saying, "no" and having boundaries, and all that, but ... I guess I'm having trouble understanding...
- Well, am I genius for putting my foot in my mouth. Yesterday my partner was telling me some news of corruption he found, and I get concerned that he gets too into how corrupt, incompetent, and stupid things are in the world that he upsets...
- Resentment came back FULL FORCE, probably stronger than ever. For the first time in my life I was absolutely furious with my partner but didn't tell him. As far as he's concerned, everything is a-okay. We're starting to talk to each other...
- Has anyone looked into law of attraction? I came across Abraham Hicks when I looked up for things like “letting go”, “go with the flow” and “trust the universe.” Which are things I’m trying to do so I was listening to what she said...
- So I got to the point of recovery where I’m feeling... I don’t know if stuck is the right word or lethargic or just plain restless, but I just want to bury my head in the sand and ignore the world. I know I should do more shadow work. I hate...
- Oh man, it was going to happen. My Dawkins/Hitchens-loving atheist self with a million religious hang-ups who sneered at anything "spiritual" being told she needed to look into a higher power in order to heal... "As long as I stay away from...
- Been just feeling ghastly lately. Empty, bitter, resentful, depressed, jealous, angry, and every negative emotions times ten. I’m frustrated beyond belief and tired of waking up dreading another pointless day of misery.So today’s Courage to...
- Monday I finally went to my third CODA meeting (I live in a place with inclement weather) and it was exactly what I needed. I went there feeling impatient and despair regarding my relationship and I was going to ask them to skip the cross talk...
- Yes I am going to talk about God again. I just had a revelation about my hang up. Now to clarify I don’t think the 12 steps or believing in a higher power is necessary for recovery for everyone. I do dislike it when Alanon says one is...
- Does anyone else have issues with taking? Whether it’s a helping hand, a gift, a favour? Here are the issues I have: I see everything as a ledger of sorts. When someone gives something to me, I feel like I have to return it and usually I...
- I’m going to my third CODA meeting tomorrow night (YAY!) but so far from the first meetings it’s more of people sharing than something that has an actual agenda, which I’m okay with. To be honest, I find the 12 steps “giving everything up...
- Today’s courage to change daily reading was about choosing chaos over serenity. A lot of their readings is on serenity, and I realize, I don’t know what serenity looks like. I keep praying for serenity but I don’t know what it’s supposed...
- It took me fifteen minutes of sitting beside him in silence but I finally had the courage to truly be honest with him. What a difference from a month ago when I spent five hours in absolute terror trying to get the courage to talk.I told him I...
- I think the original stonewall is over but we had gotten so used to not speaking to each other that we are still not speaking to each other. I guess the stonewall is still up, but it’s being held up by both sides now.I did kind of talk and asked...