I have some experience with the law of attraction.

I have a successful business of selling on ebay and amazon.

The universe is always looking to balance itself so wherever there is a perceived lack, the universe will fill in the gap. So if I want to sell a certain item, I will express that intent, and leave it up to the universe to find me a buyer and within 24-48 hours, it's sold. Sometimes quicker but rarely longer. I think about it for just a few seconds and then I go on to something else because if I think about it too long, my ego will get involved and when that happens, I can forget about getting my wish.

In acim, they call it the Holy Instant where our right mind is directly connected to God.... You can do the same thing through the practice of meditation.

In our dualistic world, we have two thought systems,....Our ego, which is the teacher of our wrong minded thought system....and the Holy spirit, or right mind which is connected to God, and is the teacher of our right minded thought system. Different spiritualities call it different things.

When you ask the universe for something and then worry about it or add resistance or belief that it won't happen the the universe picks up the negative vibration and doesn't act on it.

Another way to think about the law of attraction is like with people who always expect bad things to happen. The universe keeps sending them bad things because it thinks they like bad things since that's what their vibration is and it doesn't know the difference.

We live in a reflective universe and all of your successful people in this world will tell you that the way you reach your goals in this life is not so much through working hard but by "imagining it done!" The mind is very powerful and can be dangerous at times. so we really have to be careful what we think.

I don't know if I answered your question but I am happy to see a post about the law of attraction. If you have any other questions just ask.

God Bless.

Bob, that's awesome you answered! I'm even more stoked that you said, "If you have any other questions just ask." because I have a million questions!

I like the idea of getting whatever I want or need, but I'm afraid of several things. First off, that I become obsessed with getting it right. I can see myself beating myself for not thinking positively enough or having doubt. I can see myself getting into a cycle where I think, "oh my god, you have doubt! You can't have any doubt! Now it's never going to happen!" and getting a panic attack over that.

In some ways, I prefer the idea of accepting whatever the outcome is, and telling myself I can survive a negative outcome, instead of relying on the outcome being exactly what I want, because I can see myself blaming myself and beating myself up if my desired outcome doesn't happen.

How would you handle if your didn't sell your stuff within 24-48 hours? Does that mean you did it wrong? Is your fault? Does that mean it will never sell?

You wrote: "When you ask the universe for something and then worry about it or add resistance or belief that it won't happen the the universe picks up the negative vibration and doesn't act on it."

Does that mean if I have any doubt, I'm screwed? There's no hope? If that's the case, should I even try, because I'm always going to have some worry or some doubt.

The other question is, expecting other people to, say, buy we're selling or agree to take on my lease, how is that different from wanting to control other people behaviours? Isn't that us expecting other people to do what we want them to do? And isn't the 12 steps about letting go of wanting other people to do what we want them to do?

I think my main problem with Law of Attraction is that it will stir up my need to control things. I'll want to use it to make other people and the universe do my bidding, and when they don't, I'll beat myself up for not thinking correctly. I can myself falling down the rabbit hole of "I didn't vibrate correctly, now I will never be happy."

Law of Attraction may not be good for someone for like me lol.

I'm also wary of when people want to use Law of Attraction to cure illness and cancers. I can imagine someone saying to someone with cancer, "it's your fault. You should have thought better thoughts." Instead of just accepting that sometimes, illnesses happen.

Does Law of Attraction mean we don't accept that bad things can happen without it being our fault?

I'm not being snarky. I seriously would appreciate any answers to my questions. I actually do want to listen to more Law of Attraction teachings because I do like what they say about not striving or working against the current to get what you want. I'm just worried it can get into victim-blaming territory of "your pet got run over by a car and it's your fault because you doubted the universe", because I do believe that bad happens - it's part of life.

If you can switch your thinking from your ego to your right mind then that's really all you need to do. The trick is to give up control which is hard to do but keep in mind that the universe has a much better picture of what's going on in your life, then you do. It can see things that you can't possibly see, so if you don't get what you ask for, you will get something better instead.

Keep in mind that anything that comes from fear, won't get you anything. These are things you mentioned that are fear based, " obsessed with getting it right. .... everything in your second and third paragraph, pretty much. It takes practice and you have to learn to forgive yourself if you don't get it right the first few times.

4th paragraph. Nope, I don't think about those things because in the rare case that it doesn't sell means there is something better coming down the road . Also, I can't be apprehensive about the future because the future is not here yet and the past is gone so all I really have control over is the present. Right here and right now. Thinking of a potential future event that may or may not take place is my ego trying to sabotage my thoughts. This is when you have to monitor your thoughts and be aware of ego tricks like that. The ego is not your friend. Your right mind is because your right mind is unconditional love just waiting for you to ask it for help..

If you find yourself analyzing a situation then that's your ego at work. Ego loves to analyze. Remember that the ego analyzes and the right mind accepts! Your right mind is your gateway to universal knowledge so don't be afraid to have a conversation with him. You can call the right mind God, or Jesus, or Holy Spirit or Higher Power....it doesn't matter as long as you don't call it your ego.

It only takes a few seconds to ask for what you want but start doing something else to take your mind off it and it will decrease your chances of sabotaging your request. YOu have to trust and you have to have Faith. A good way to learn trust is to ask the Holy Spirit for a sign. Ask in such a way that you will be 100% sure of where it came from. When I did that, I felt a touch on the back of my hand. Another time I did it, I felt an itch on my arm and another time it was on my head, on my temple. It's always different. They are very clever :)

Don't worry about what other people think. You can't control the thoughts of others..

The 12 steps is about taking control of our life, away from our ego ....which is what got us in trouble to begin with,.... and handing that control over to our Higher Power. who will find you a buyer who will be happy with their purchase. Another thing about the way the universe works is, it won't create a deficit in one to an advantage in another. It looks to make both sides happy because we are all the same in the eyes of God, as they say..

You don't need to do any thinking. Just tell the universe, "Here is my problem....show me another way!" and then follow your heart instead of your ego and everything will work out fine....

We all came into this world to learn different things so I never judge another person no matter who they are or what they did because I have no idea what motivated them to do the things they did. I have found that the key to having peace and serenity in my life is by not judging and practicing radical forgiveness of others including myself.... As long as we are human, we will make mistakes which is why forgiveness is so important... I have learned to accept myself the way I am.....an imperfect person in an imperfect world.

You seem to have alot of anxiety over using the law of attraction but once you see it working silently in your life and to your advantage then that anxiety will disappear because I use to be the same way. Meditation is a good way to calm yourself when you don't want your ego to get in the way. There are many good guided meditations on you tube.

You know what they say....you have nothing to fear but fear itself. I'll be happy to coach you every step of the way. It doesn't hurt, I promise :)

Wow thank you for the great and informative reply! Have you heard of Aaron Abke? I really like what he has to say about law of attraction because it’s more about being authentic and less about getting a shiny fast car. He also talks a lot about ego, so I’m glad you brought up the ego. I particularly like what you said about ego analyzes and the right kind accepts. I know I overthink things and analyze and “try to get it right” and obsess on all the ways I can get it wrong. I guess that’s the ego.

It also helps when you said that if the exact desire doesn’t happen, don’t worry because the universe has something better in store. That does take a lot of anxiety off the shoulder. I’m not even that worried of not getting what I want. I realized I can survive most things at this point and come out stronger. I’m more concerned about falling into my old habit of obsessing why things aren’t happening the way they’re supposed to and blaming myself for it.

And any coaching help would be much appreciated!!! I’m intrigued and inspired by the idea of Law of Attraction. Seems like a fun way to interact with the universe. It’s the fear of judging myself if I get it wrong that i’m worried about.

Universe Energy manifests it's self in many different ways. For me, I do believe in Energy Working from the Universe to Earth...Everything is energy.

In thoughts of what I'd like, I do what I can, then let go of the outcome...not forcing my wants to the point of frustration or anxiety.

I do a clarifying exercise of writing down Everything I Want...then separating the most important, important and least important...giving myself a time line of 3 months for each section.

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing expecting different results. I believe in God, and God helps those who help themselves. Re-framing yet not forcing an outcome that brings peace.

My work coach is big on law of attraction and manifestation. Her focus is more on rewriting our thinking . Eg at work my down fall can be lacking assertiveness she said to me instead of saying I’m not that assertive, say I can be assertive then manifesting that .

I do think the energy you give out effects the energy you get . I believe. You have to be grounded In yourself , have some self work done to understand the concept fully .If you’re completely stuck In Codependency I would not advise doing law of attraction work as a starting point .

I can see it in my own life in my severe codependency days I had poor emotional boundaries I was impatient and over reactive and taking on others feelings . Since i started becoming calmer communicating better having more emotional boundaries .

I hardly attract the Narcy, demanding energy vampires not saying they don’t exist but the energy I give out has changed and that’s changes the people I attract . It’s about becoming the best version of yourself .

I have never heard of Aaron Abke....Most of my readings and videos align with acim which says there is only one problem in the world and one solution. Every perceived problem in this world has to do with aligning with the ego and every solution for all the world's problems is aligning with the Holy Spirit or Right mind.

One way to become more right minded is with the practice of meditation. Another way is to do the lessons of acim. It's a one year course and there is one lesson for every day of the year. I read somewhere that 70% of all students have some level of psychic ability. That has happened with me also. I had an experience about 3 years ago that I've been trying to replicate ever since. It was beautiful.

Like the others above me said, try something different and see if it resonates with you and if not, just try something else, that's all.

God Bless

Thanks guys for all your comments. Mlro, I like what you said about not forcing the outcome. That was my main issue with LoA is that I see people saying they use it to manifest cars and money and houses and relationships, and I’m like, man, I can see how that would bring up my control issues again thinking I could use it to get whatever I want. I do like how Aaron Abke talks about LoA as a way to realize that everything we want is already inside us and we don’t need external things.

Bob, Aaron does reference A Course in Miracles a lot and now you’ve mentioned it too. I’ll have to look that up! Probably later though. I think salina’s right that I still have work to do on myself.

I’m going back to look into stoic philosophy and Taoism again. I like how they teach accepting and being at peace with reality, though there are definitely changes in my life I want to make.

I think you hit the nail on the head Bob about being in the right mind. I think once I’m there I’ll get a clearer idea of what LoA and acim is really about. I will work on meditating and seeing if I could get into my right mind so I have the wisdom to know which changes to make and the courage to carry them out.

This is the best discussion I’ve read on DS!! Thanks for your post and thanks bob for the clear reply. I have been working my way to this way of life so this talk was meant to be. Course in miracles is on my bookshelf and am just finishing up two and was considering what to pick up next. :) yay! I read a good bit of eastern philosophy and love Tao and Buddhist teachings. You mentioned the letting go thing. I understand that as letting go of attachment. Which keeps feeding the ego as our right mind doesn’t need them. Be here now and thanks again

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There is a clear channel name Tina Spalding who became a channel after doing the lessons in the Course so she channels Jesus who is said to be the original author of the Course and downloaded it though a lady named Helen Schucman who was a seer. It's a fascinating story which is very well documented thanks to Helen keeping notes of everything that went on in her life. The first teacher of the Course, Ken Wapnick wrote a book based on those notes called "Absence from Felicity which I highly recommend!

I went through the lessons a second time with Tina who would channel a commentary by Jesus after reading each lesson for the day. You can find them on you tube beginning with lesson 1 all the way to lesson 365..
highly recommend..,

In my opinion, it's the most important spiritual text since the Bible and even makes many corrections which the original writers of the Bible got wrong! When I began to hear my own teachers and guides speaking to me I thought, Whoa! There is alot more going on around us then what we can see and hear....we are never alone!...
God Bless