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- OMG, I have to have the most unhinged, foaming-at-the-mouth, rabies-infected feral dog of a partner in the world. As for why he's my partner, I come from a family of hothead and my father in particular was extemely violent, so anger is my...
- hasty_05 made a brilliant comment on my post about what would a person with self-respect do when she said, "Your soul and mind knows you need to stop living with this man and work on healing yourself. But then you second guess yourself because you...
- Edited to add: This is some hours later. I can't sleep. I'm so overwhelmed with emotions. Beyond saturated. I'm so angry, I am full of grief, I'm ready to blow, I'm scared beyond belief, I want him dead, I want to be dead myself, I'm so...
- I'm asking myself that question as I have another stupid argument with my partner. Well, it's not an argument because I don't know how to argue. He yells at me and I shut down and go sulk in my room. That's my MO. Don't how to yell...
- If you asked me when I was at the most codependent of my codependency what I wanted for Christmas, here's what I would have said:1. For everyone to be happy.2. What I want Santa to bring is what every person wants Santa to bring them.3. Peace, with...
- My relationship is not one of narcissistic abuser and poor abused victim. It's a fairly toxic relationship, but trust me, I'm probably just as toxic, if not, more toxic than my partner. Let's break this down. My brand of codependency is one...
- Okay, not murder, but you know what I mean. I totally let people get away with all sorts of things - disrespectful behaviour, not fulfilling their responsibilities, breaking boundaries, etc. I hate conflict, I hate confrontation, I hate...
- If someone asked me what the one thing that can trigger me BIGTIME, it would be seeing desperation. I can't deal with seeing people in desperate situation. Okay, I'm better with it now, but sometimes it still disregulates me majorly, and then my...
- This may not be a codependent thing, but considering that a higher power is an important topic for a lot of codependents, I'm going to bring it up here.I just realized that a lot of my fear of confrontation, a lot of my fear of speaking up, of...
- I blinked and more than a year went by (and what a year.) Sorry for not participating for so long, but life as a teacher who takes her job too seriously (but it's so much more fulfilling that way!) was super busy. So a quick update before I get...
- Well, I had my relationship coach drop me, which was one hell of a pulling of a rug underneath me, and then I disappointed someone (not my partner) not too long afterwards and realize ... support and help are really awesome things, but sometimes I...
- My first post on this forum way back in November was me freaking out that I couldn't talk to my partner. Over six months later, I'm still working on talking to my partner. As some one of you know, I have hired a relationship coach who's been...
- I'm back from my long break from recovery and I re-listened to Matt Kahn's brilliant video on The Will of Your Heart (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L0gEyngCdF8). He said the most self-defeating words were "God I hope ________ doesn't happen" and...
- What I wanted to post was, "Guess who finally had the courage to tell her partner how she really feels and they broke up and now she's on the path to finally on her way to living a healthy, fulfilling life as her authentic self?" Instead, my...
- Not saying I will leave this relationship, but I've been pretty miserable lately and daydreaming of being with someone who I don't feel alienated from that it's looking more and more like the healthier decision. If it is, where does one find the...