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- My dear friends, it was last year that I came to this board. Little by little, I learned that I was with a man who cheated on me, left me for the other woman and said I would never amount to anything. Well, he should have stfu because guess what? I...
- I haven't posted as much but I have been reading and benefitting from the collective wisdom of my di friends. I am just carrying on, as best as I can. The roller coaster is tough but I have come to expect it. The instability of it is rough. I just...
- there was a major crane accident in NY last Friday; it was all over the news. My stbx actually works in the area. I debated but I sent a very simple text, inquiring if he is okay. He replied with a very simple answer. First off, I really debated it...
- Today, I signed my final settlement, so maintenance payments begin. so, the attorney will now go ahead and file the divorce. As I was there, she mentioned a couple of things. I don't know how it came up but she said he was not jumping for joy but...
- yesterday, I was beside myself. Down in the dirt. Lower than dirt. Today, there is sunshine. Today there is clarity. I AM GOING TO GET MY OWN HOME. As in, my inheritance is my mother's home. I am the youngest of 4 daughters; in my culture, the...
- Yup, for whatever reason the mediator needed to know the new car he has. it took him a while to respond, which made me nervous because I knew he was up to something. So, he finally disclosed he leased a BMW. I drove around in a Saturn with no heat...
- So, the last time I posted, I mentioned that the stbx was basically harassing me (through our mediator) about hurrying up my attorney to finish the settlement so we can come to an agreement. Well, with my attorney's approval, I okayed the...
- My therapist said that ignoring someone and pretending they don't exist is a form of abuse. I have been dealing with this. As you guys may remember, my cheating stbxh loser has gone no contact with me. He only communicates through the mediator. He...
- My dear friends,I don't know what condition this holiday season finds you in: perhaps, I hope, you are surrounded by loved ones. But you may be lonely, seeing desolate or even in a crowd but feel alone. Whatever your circumstance, just want to let...
- Guys, I just wanted to share some good news since there hasn't been much lately. I got offered two classes at a nice NY university next semester. That means I will be teaching 3 classes next semester. Now it is still part-time because I am not...
- Holidays can be tough or they can be wonderful. However, you are spending your Thanksgiving, I wish you peace and love today. Remember family comes in many sizes and shapes, often good friends are family too. Whichever path you are on today, you are...
- I find that lately, and especially tonight, all of the LIES and deception are coming back. If you guys remember when I first came on this board I just thought he was thinking of a divorce because he was unhappy; I had NO idea that he was cheating....
- EVERY day is a brutal day. Today seems more brutal than usual. First, I am really hitting a wall with finding a job. I keep getting more desperate. I am feeling down about my future prospects today. Just looked over the preliminary divorce...
- I was just observing an interaction I had with a male friend. I was very vulnerable. Clearly, feeling rejected, unwanted and basically, don't know if life can ever be the same again. But I noticed that I felt very comfortable with him, so I let my...
- Yes, it is so true, everyone on this board gives such helpful advice. It's great. If only, it were that easy to follow. Sciteacher, I think you and I have very similar stories, somehow. I think I am struck by how you also said you don't have any...