That's great news, Pickingup!! Well done and good on ya!!

Ignore every silly word he says. He's just trying to bring you down because he knows you're going places, my friend.

I think the world is your oyster!

love and hugs
kamary

that is great

he does not have any say in the narrative of you life

Wow, good for you.
You are really taking care of yourself.
Who cares what your stbx says....
Can ask what do you teach. ?
Just courious .
Bob

Great news! And you ARE going places. Put him in your rearview mirror and full steam ahead! :)

Big Hugsss
SO

Picking up,
Wow, that is fantastic news!!! Good for you, you go girl!!! Some days I have to force my butt out of bed because of my situation, you should be very proud of yourself!
When my stbx says hurtful things to me now, I repeat the words of Christina Aguilera's song Beautiful in my mind. Sometimes over & over, ... Lol

I am beautiful no matter what you say
Words can't bring me down
So don't you bring me down today

Those are the words of her song that I repeat to myself. And believe me, I don't mean beautiful in a physical way but in a caring heart way. ( Every dog has its day & mine was in my twenties, long gone. ... Lol. ) But I am okay with that. I am close to 60 not wanting to look 25 again.

#5
Nice post
And sad, I see how much men can fuck up a lady
I'm seeing a lady that is beautiful inside and out
She thinks I'm nice because I don't beat her down/break her down
I told I was lucky to meet her, she didn't know how to handle that

For all of you lady's, any jerkoff that wants to beat you down is an asshole
That does not deserve to be in your company

You all better get that correct in your heads
(And not all men are jerkoffs)
Okay?

What kind of mess could you possibly be, when you are pursuing a PhD, AND teaching two university classes? I would be so proud. I'm glad you are moving forward, and maybe his snide remarks will be even more fuel to your motivation!

HI guys. Your support means everything to me. It gets me through. You guys were here from the beginning when I thought he just needed space and had no idea that he was cheating on me. Timeman, I teach American History but this class is going to be a World History course. It's going to be challenging but I am excited. Refurb, I am glad your lady has finally met a nice, kind man. Thiscantbe, I do it but I do it through the tears. The pain is still so unbearable but I do it because I just have no choice. I just put one foot in front of the other. The truth is that I am nowhere near where I should be, concentrating and performing but I am doing my best. Startingover, cmonge and kamary, thanks for your find words of support. I suspect this Christmas will be brutal but I will (like the rest of us) get through. Don't know what the future holds, just trying to put one foot in front of the other. Thank you, my friends; your support means a lot to me.

Wow that is so wonderful. You are on your way. The first Christmas is usually not good. However there is only one first Christmas without the X ! So the future looks bright for you.

And you are just where you are supposed-- to be moving forward and gaining strength.

Hugs Dee

Awesome news Pickingup! And I remember how much you enjoy teaching, how your students help you realize just how gifted you are, so there's another, positive addition to your day to day on it's way.
It's just as well the divorce is going through, because the sooner it's finished and behind you, the sooner you can focus just on you. I know it's hard, being a caring, heart filled woman as well, but try to realize that anything he says now isn't about you. It's about his miserable inner self, trying to convince himself he's a good person, trying to deny the lying, cheating, pathetic scoundrel he is. He's projecting his fears for himself on to you. Pity him, put him into God's hands, or Karma's if you prefer, and set him and his negative energies aside.
You keep moving forward into your future; your career, your success, your freedom and healing. Keep on smiling my friend!

Good for you. What do you mean that you are nowhere you SHOULD be yet. There are no shoulds! And you have done amazingly well in such a short time. Healing has to take time and you have been doing everything right. Just getting over the shock of what happened to you takes a very long time.

Congrats on your accomplishments!! They are huge!!!

And someday you will really realize that you are SOOOO much better off without him. You deserve someone that appreciates you and is proud of your accomplishments.

Hugs,
Donna

Yes, the first Christmas is hard to get through. Mine was very difficult, I had no one....no wife, no family ,no son , no grandchildren... No one. But I didn't have D&S either and that would have helped me out tremendously.
You have D&S and all of us !
Bob

The universe is conspiring to show me the way. When I think of what I have faced (literally, my worst nightmare) and everyone (my family and my friends on this amazing board) who have helped me, I am overwhelmed with gratitude. As you guys know, I have been looking for a full time job and have been wondering if I should leave the university level to pursue teaching in high school or even to get a full time secretarial or any full time job. But things have been slowly pointing me to finish the PhD and TAKE A CHANCE! Yesterday, my last day of teaching was inspiring. My kids, all 35, lined up at my podium and shook my hand. They said thank you. Some of them even said I was their best professor, that they looked forward to MY class and I have prepared them. I realize that I must give it a chance. I have a talent here and at least, I shouldn't give up right away. So the plan is to lug all of my books to FLordia and write the proposal over the break and when I come back I am going to teach the classes (one of them means driving at night! which I will do!!) and move on as best as I can. My dear friends, thank you for your support.

So very happy for you! You are doing so well with this, keep up the positive energy.

Wow this sounds fantastic, and just what you need to get your mind off the jerkoff ex. Good luck!