yesterday, I was beside myself. Down in the dirt. Lower than dirt. Today, there is sunshine. Today there is clarity.
I AM GOING TO GET MY OWN HOME. As in, my inheritance is my mother's home. I am the youngest of 4 daughters; in my culture, the property goes to the youngest. I just never considered it because I am not materialistic. I felt I should work and earn my own home. The dream of my family is that no matter what the 4 of us will always have a home.
Well, my sisters were so fucking furious that this loser had me driving in a Saturn with no heat, and now is RENTING a BMW (more on that later), THEY CAME TO ME, to let me know THEY have decided that they do not want any part of my mother's property because they have their own homes. They want me to have it. They want me to sell it, and buy my own home, wherever the phd takes me. My mom will own the home by December, when my divorce will be final. So, this means the loser stbx will NEVER get his hands on my inheritance. For those of you have been with me since last May, you will remember one of the reasons he said he is leaving me is because I am a loser, will always be a mess, HE WILL NEVER HAVE HIS OWN HOME WITH ME and my FAMILY IS USELESS BECAUSE THEY DON'T HELP US. Well, guess what? I am going to own my own home and it is a fat ass investment for anywhere else I want to be. HAD HE WAITED, just one more year, had he not cheated on me and revealed the depths of his selfishness, and pure greed, IT WOULD HAVE BEEN HIS IN A YEAR. If you don't believe in the hand of God, this is the proof!
Oh, and yes, he is paying alimony SO I HAVE 2 YEARS TO FINISH THAT PHD AND GET MY JOB!
So, every dream he had will be mine.
Apparently, my family always had reservations about him and they never said anything to me because I loved him so much and would never hear a bad word against him. They never trusted him.
As for the RENTING of a BMW, I am surprised at you, my friends. We should have seen it for what it is. It's a desperate, pathetic man trying to keep the OW. Imagine how pathetic he must feel. If he doesn't wine and dine her, doesn't buy her things, she just might be looking at the other guy walking by. Consider for a moment, how that must feel. Now here is the thing: I know that man more than anyone on this planet AND HE IS CHEAP. HE HATES TO SPEND MONEY ON WOMEN. He always thought women were gold diggers and he loved that I was not a gold digger. Well, guess what, now he has a gold digger but the jokes is on her! There aint no gold. He's RENTING the BMW. So, we missed something really important in our analysis: karma is here already.
Smile, my friends.
I don't plan on telling him about my inheritance. THAT will be revealed once the divorce is final. My family has made it abundantly clear: nothing will be given to me as long as I am married to this man. I DODGED A BULLLET. Imagine if this man did this to me down the line? He would have had it all plus 1/2 of my family home.
It hurts because what drives me is love and decency. I said to that man " I love you; I would live with you in a hut." And he said to me "well, that's not enough." I may not be saving myself but there is something in this universe that is not done with me. It carries me.
And me, I am surrounded by love. Everywhere I turn. Nieces that worship the ground I walk on and sisters that will not leave me, no matter what. I may not have a father and that man may have thought we are nothing. BUT WAIT, till he knows.
He better get some pills to swallow what is coming his way.
I already received a nasty email from him this morning. But I smiled. If only he knew... I am going to have that home and that phd and the very people who he thought were losers are going to give it to me. And him? He's renting a BMW, hoping to hold on to a woman who demands a BMW.