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- I truly feel for the first time in almost 4 years, untethered by the past, untethered by resentment.ive broken free from the event horizon of the sucking blackhole of the past I'm looking towards the future and living in the present and leaving...
- I truly feel for the first time in almost 4 years, untethered by the past, untethered by resentment.ive broken free from the event horizon of the sucking blackhole of the past I'm looking towards the future and living in the present and leaving...
- Choices ....or what does a gunshot and infidelity have incommon?Lately, I've been looking and framing infidelity thru the lens of CHOICES.The person who committed infidelity made their choice. The person who has betrayed....what choices did they...
- sounds strange to say but I think I'm over the infidelitydday was over 2.5 years ago.first year was survivalsecond year was dealing more w wife's emotional and physical declinethird year.... at some point in the last month or so...I just seem to be,...
- a funny thing happened to me on the way to the forumso, its almost 2 and a half years past dday (few 8 men in 15 months).we've gone thru hell and back....and are in a good place and still working on moving forward.although, there is no one other...
- some random thoughts last few weeks, the facts of the past (i.e. the time during my wife's multiple infidelities) has been popping up more than they have. I attribute that to me feeling a disconnect growing between my wife and I, and I...
- even though I'm a a very good space....... some days....I still crasheven though I feel that I have traveled quite far in my healing journey and my wife and I are in a good spot in R, and the memories of Dday fade as do my brain re-inventoring the...
- wahoo!over the last 4 months I've been drawing down the frequency of IC sessions....from weekly, to bi-weekly, to monthly...and today, my IC therapist and I agreed, that there's no real reason to come back at this point.I feel like I just graduated!
- just posted this reply on a different forum regarding forgiveness. thought it appropriate to post here as wellI think that I had thought forgiveness would be an event.I and of expected that , ok , someday I will forgive, because I need to...
- the following thought crossed my mind the last two nights as my wife and I were enjoying our evening post kids routine.when I think about the past..... its not the past of the affairs, nor is it the past of the initially year post dday,the past that...
- such a small difference.just a few lettersbut the impact is HUGEI was a SHOULDER for years....I should have done this, I should have done that.I SHOULDED myself post dday for a long time.I should have known, I should have .....I shouldn't have done...
- ever get to the point when infidelity no longer interests you ?over the 2 plus years since dday, there have been times when I have walked away from the forums or the books on infidelity. those times, I did , mainly, for peace of mind. I needed a...
- weekend was fun. daughter was a t scout camp, and son and I went on some game buying escapades on Sun. coming back from the store, I was on a road and thought to myself "hmm...if I go straight on this road, there are places that could upset...
- dammit. triggered during sex......had a wonderful day w kids and wife, and family time in the evening playing board games w kids and wifeunwound after kids went to bed w a drink and smoke and topped off the day with (TMI) amazing eyes roll back in...
- Where I amvsWhere am I Where I am /. Where am I? a thought or observation that cropped up in my head last night. The "where I am" bit, came from me acknowledging and embracing the amount of progress I have made since the disclosure of my wifes...