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- I'm still in denial. I'm currently looking for a therapist because I don't think i'm going to fully get over this on my own. I read up as much as I can and have breakthrough moments where I recognize things he's done and feel like everything falls...
- I thought i'd been doing really well recently. I've done a lot of reading on covert and psychological abuse and everything seems to be falling into place a bit more. I keep reading the signs over to remind myself of the things that relate to him. At...
- - I still have so much shame that I degraded myself and had sex with him when he came back. I naively thought he'd changed and it meant he wanted me back.- I'm ashamed of how my life seemed to revolve around him and how dependent i was on him. I had...
- hello everybody, Recently I've been feeling okay and like I'm finally seeing things for what they are. I still have bad nights and triggers but I'm doing better.. however now I can't stop dreaming about him. In my dreams he's always nice and...
- There will be things that will remind me of him and my mood just instantly drops. I have to be careful what music i listen to and even walk out of shops playing certain songs that remind me of him. I have to switch over channels with celebrities he...
- Everybody here has been so wonderful with all the support. However on some other support forums some people will say he doesn't seem abusive and he was just 'young and wanted to party' and my nagging might have drove him away. There's also been...
- I'm feeling like i'm starting to get somewhere and finally moving on little by little. However i've been struggling with something which may seem quite petty. When we were together and he started to devalue me, he'd begin to point out how much he...
- For those of you that aren't aware of my story, i'd broken up with an emotionally abusive boyfriend and not contacted him for over a year. I didn't know the true extent to what he was doing, i just knew i'd ended up very depressed and feeling like...
- Since he started becoming more distant, I began getting quite clingy. He made me out to be very needy too which I think just emphasized it. This wasn't in the sense of constantly ringing him or not letting him go out with his friends etc.. I felt...
- I've been tempted many times to break contact but have managed to stay no contact for four months since he discarded me.Lately though, many people i know including a close friend have had break ups and got back together with their boyfriend and are...
- Just out of interest really. He was completely indifferent towards me, no affection, never really telling me he loved me, ignored me, was sometimes plain rude. However when I couldn't take it anymore and left he repeated over again 'i hope you know...
- In our previous relationship i didn't know my ex was abusive.. i was very depressed all the time but i thought that was a problem with me. When it finally ended i started no contact straight away and moved on quite well. A year later we get in touch...
- I'm beginning to see the things he did that made me feel so bad and i'll have strong moments of clarity where i know i'm better off without him and feel silly for even liking him or putting up with it.But tonight it's one of those nights, it's 2 in...
- I've previously wrote my story on another post and have had some incredible support and confirmation that my ex was abusive. I've been repeatedly told i am not at fault, which makes it harder to admit months later i still haven't been able to shake...
- Sorry it's so long but it'd mean a lot to me if i could get some insight on this. I'm really struggling moving on.I've had two serious relationships. The first was my first love and the one who took my virginity.. when we broke up it felt like the...