jms7229
Status: focusing on my abundance instead of what i lack.
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- Today I am feeling absolutely unmotivated to practice any detachment, patience, or pretend kindness. I don't feel like being compassionate or considering things from his perspective/ disease/ condition. Even when not actively drinking the pain Meds...
- Things have been a bit more peaceful for me. I have reread most of my books on codependency and am working hard to to move myself to the next level of healing. Not so easy all the time, but to feel a little less stressed is worth it.I also came...
- What I Do And Why it Does Not Work:I inappropriately think it is my duty to point out and correct all his weird, negative, and nasty behaviors.. It is not. I want to " help" him. I cannot. I want him to hear me . He cannot. I hate it when he...
- The last two weeks with my husband have been just awful! The same old stuff. Resulting in a couple of out of control arguments leaving the both of us just despondent. Here is the silver lining for me: I realized I was getting lazy in my own healing...
- Life with an alcoholic is difficult at best. I walk on eggshells every minute of every day it seems. So unpredictable, not feeling safe, or appreciated. But wait!!!!!! Sometimes I find myself far too deep into HIS problems, I allow AH to make his...
- I've been off this page for a year or two. I needed to stop focusing on the addictive behaviors of AH and start looking for more positive things. During this time AH managed to keep things to a dull roar most of the time and I started to build...
- Hello I'm Jackie... I'm back! It's been a couple of years since I've been here. Not that any thing ever really got better, but AH did for a while manage to keep things down to a dull roar. I needed to dis entangle myself from the whole process and...
- My husband is a long time alcoholic who due to several spinal surgeries became addicted to opiates. For a while lately he seemed to be keeping himself in check and life became enjoyable together, not perfect, but okay. Three weeks ago at a routine...
- Now I say to you in conclusion,life is hard,at times as hard as crucible steel. (Mmm)It has its bleak and difficult moments.Like the ever-flowing waters of the river,life has its moments of drought and its moments of flood. (Yeah)Like the...
- I took a break from DS for about a year......I needed to focus on positive possibilities for myself, and let AH learn to deal with not having me around to babysit him. Things between us improved a little. Yes he still drinks, still abuses pain...
- Not much to say today, but thanking my lucky stars he just fell asleep! Wishing you all a peaceful evening.
- I am taking a deep breath right now....... Reminding myself to detach, disengage, stay busy, serenity praying. Hubby's current mistress is clonopin. If these tranquilizers made him tranquil and pleasant it might be worth it, but they seem to be...
- Hi everyone, my name is Jackie, I have been married to my AH since 1981. I began my DS association on the friends and families of addicts group since hubby became addicted to opiates and tranquilizers during the last 5 years due to recurrent back...
- Chronically tranquilizer, opiate addicted, alcoholic husband called me clearly stoned while I was at work today. He has been relatively tolerable for about two months after a short, failed attempt at rehab, and a return to the ineffective one on one...
- Since a legal divorce is not an option for me presently, due primarily to financial issues, I have put a secondary option into place that meets my needs. Thankfully my house can accommodate separate living areas, I have taken the initiative and now...