The last two weeks with my husband have been just awful! The same old stuff. Resulting in a couple of out of control arguments leaving the both of us just despondent. Here is the silver lining for me: I realized I was getting lazy in my own healing and recovery. So I re- read some of the books I found most helpful in the past and found some things I missed the first time around. I read over some of my journal entries going back a couple of years. Especially helpful were my entries about the positive changes I was making that worked and am reintroducing those behaviors into my life.
I am walking away from arguments or triggers that are useless to me, but remaining firm when my boundaries aren't respected. When he is acting out in what I call his " punishment " behavior, I pretend not to notice.
And guess what? The sky dies not fall, the planets stay in alignment, and I am more at peace. I think I knew this but just forgot.
I am keeping all of you and your loved ones in my prayers.