Hi, my name is Natasha and i'm a liar.

hey natasha welcome to the group...well not actually a "group-group" but there's a bunch of us here, all with the same problem, we're liars, trying to live a truthful life. you can go back and read some of the posts and see that it isn't easy but that it can be done...another truthful day for me thank the stars for that. i wish the very best of luck in your new journey, may it last your lifetime
nite all and a truthful day again tomorrow

Good morning All. Welcome to all the new people who have joined since my last check-in. It’s been a couple of days since I posted and I have been 95% honest. The problem 5% continues when I respond quickly, by reflex – and then that I have a greater tendency to lie. This happens when I’m pressured, thinking about something else, stressed, or tired and I don’t take the time to think my answer through. I’ve also noticed that when I respond without thinking, I often will do a 180-degree reversal in my answer if I’m asked for clarification or pressed about my initial answer. And contradicting myself (sometimes within seconds) makes it very difficult for people close to me to believe what I say. Having a long history of lying and trying to please everyone doesn’t help either. Especially during those difficult times it is critical that I remember to slow down and think – then respond truthfully.

I’ve been thinking about movies (thanks, medicx) and “The Matrix” popped into my head. By lying, I have created a false life – trying to convince others (and myself) that I am a different, better person than I am. The movie reference is probably a stretch, but it makes sense to me. Lying about who I am is initially much easier than working on becoming a better person – but harder and more painful in the long run. Being truthful is pretty much the opposite. So, today I’m going to slow down and think before speaking – and then speak the truth.

Good luck to all of us. I hope we all have a wonderful, truthful day.

good word bng, it's the stop and think before we speak that gets a lot of us in trouble. the movie ref makes sense

good thoughtful day to all

Well said Medicx, and BNG I know what you are talking about with the 180°. I do that a lot. And welcome Natasha, there's strength in numbers.
I've not lied today, and was able to take responsibility for an error that I made, even though my mind wantt me to cover it up and hope nobody found out. One day at a time.
Thanks for your posts and keep writing them.

well folks i've managed to make it through another day. several times i had to bite my tongue so to speak to keep myself from saying something that wasn't really true, but wasn't really a lie either...sort of a place where i could have "embellished on what was the truth"...my tongue still hurts...at least i have the time i'm asleep where i don't have to worry about lying. good night all land have a wonderful truthful day tomorrow

Good morning ! Have made it through another day without lying. I have found that doing something the I never do, sharing my thoughts and feelings, has really helped. In those moments I don't have the need or urge to lie or spin my answer. I am not

saying that the automatic reflex to lie is not still there, but I seem to have options instead.
Anyway, just thinking out loud, have a truthful day.

mornin' all, that's a great thing to recognize, the fact that we have those "option", those choices, every time we open our mouths and then making the right choice...w good truthful day to everyone..

hi everyone. my name is malico and i'm a compulsive liar. not having a very good day today, or yesterday. i still haven't figured out how to stop this other than avoid human contact entirely.

malico welcome....it's frustrating isn't it? we've all been there ....more than one time i might add..one step at a time, one day at a time..stop and think each time before you open your mouth and when
you do speak the truth....that's the only way you can do it, let me not be so aggressive with that...it's the only way "I" can do it....it works for me and so that's what i do..not easy, probably won't every be...hopefully it can be made into a habit and then we won't have to work so hard at being honest, i'm still working on it...so far so good (today) who knows what tomorrow will be like....stick with it and you'll be okay..good luck

Welcome Malico, this isn't easy but you have taken a big step by admitting you have a problem. Like Medicx said, we have to think before we answer. I have been lying so long that it is like a pre-programed response for me. It has helps me to realize the fears and the need to protect myself that trigger lying for me. I have to take it moment by moment. Hang in there.

Hello All. I have finally come to the harsh realization that I'm a compulsive liar. Funny I always believed that I was an honest person - I was simply managing how others saw me. Nothing wrong about that right? How could I have been so delusional? My lying has all but destroyed my marriage and friendships. I lie because I'm full of shame and believe it is better to cover up than to remove the covers of deception. Sometimes it is acknowledged lying and other times the lies simply fly out of my mouth before I can even think about the junk that I spew. Is this hopeless or can the lying be eliminated?

regardless of the base reason for the lies, they are a choice we make every time we open our mouths, can the lying be eliminated, i believe so, but not without a constant and continual choice to speak the truth each time we open our mouths. each time we prepare to speak, it's a question of "now what is the truth that i need to speak at this time" for very situation, for every question, the conscious choice is to "speak the truth"....so welcome to the group 'btr' it's a good group and i try to check in each day just to touch bases with others and to be able to say one more day of honesty..thank the powers that be.

Hello everyone, my name is Tyler and I am admitting that I have finally realized that I am a liar. I was never really this way that I continuously remember until about the age of maybe 16 (give or take a couple years maybe). It is weird for me to day that "I finally realized that I am a liar," because I have gotten to the point where I have started to believe that the lies I tell are actually true. I have ruined my relationship with my girlfriend (well, we are broke up, but we still talk and care for each other). I want to figure out how to stop this nonsense or at least work daily toward telling truths and not lies or fibs. Is there any advice anyone could give me for starters? Also, does anyone know of any good literature about this topic to help? I enjoy reading and sometimes after too much time on the computer, the screen begins to hurt my eyes/head. I hope to engage in this group (daily would be ideal, but at least four or five times a week). Thank you all and hope we all have a truthful rest of the day/evening!

thank you med. I know lying is a choice i make - either consciously or subconciously. I'm working through other addictions, but i have realized lying whether cause or affect is perhaps the biggest challenge I'm facing as lying is at the core of the addiction. It hasn't yet been 24 hours since my last spewing of BS, but I will slow everything down today and think... really think about what I say before it leaves my lips.