bng - your post is inspiring - thank you! It's true the irony of lying is it has the opposite effect we desire. Sure in the beginning it all seems 'good,' but the reality is we are really negatively impacting ourselves the most. My wife, who knows me better than anyone, has told me on many occassions the real me (warts and all) is vastly more likeable and lovable than the false front, lying me. As she has told me the disengenious me is transparent and people can see right through me.

Yesterday I was floating on my pink cloud of honesty - which is a dangerous place for me because when I'm on that cloud congratulating myself for work well done that is when I start to get cocky and fail to pay attention or act and speak without thinking. The fortunate thing is I caught myself before I fell completely into the dark cavern, but I have to be ever vigiliant.

Happy Friday everyone. Welcome Dark - this is the place to be - read the previous posts, I have found the wisdom on this site to be a positive influence in my recovery.

morning y'all welcome to the weekend, lord knows that i will be the happiest person in the world for this week to be gone and done with...i know a person shouldn't wish away their life, but i wish this week to be gone!! there hve been hard places, but this one was a real buster...sorry for the rant, needed to let fly i suppose...welcome to the group "km; 'dp' and 'liz' you will find this is a great group with an abundance of support and compassion from folks who know what it is to be like we are, for what ever the reason and 'bng' with all those that he gave, has probably only scratched the surface.
good week end brothers and sisters, keep the faith and stay strong, we can lean on each other when we need to...

Saturday check-in. I have to be careful to keep my lying in check (duh); I find I really need to focus when my emotions are raw or I'm tired. It is very easy to slip back into bad habits. It didn't happen yesterday because I realized I was in a 'bad' place mentally and choose to keep my mouth shut.

Today is another day - happy Saturday and may it be lie-free for everyone.

Good morning everyone and welcome to all of our new members! I hope you can find the help and strength here to fight this compulsion to lie as I have. BNG, your 1/16 post really hit home. Fear and insecurity drive my need to lie. That along with my erroneous perception of what other people are thinking. I think the worst scenario (that has no basis in reality) and use my lying to protect myself based on that misconception. The person I am lying to has no idea I am even thinking about them. I easily get myself tangled up in my own web. Anyway, I have been doing good this week. Have been able to think before I answer. Have a great weekend and as Medicx says, stop, think and speak the truth.

good mornin y'all
been up all night and spent that time with a woman who means more to me than i ever knew, she and i have been working trying put back together our relationship...so very hard to sit and have to confess the lies i told her and try to explain why, when sometimes i'm not even sure myself. not sure if it will ever be the same for us, but i made it through without lies, embellishments, exaggerations ...or almost lies if there is such a thing....emotional and physically wrung out and i have a class in less than six hours...dang i hope i can make it and pass the test at the end of it...have a wonderful day y'all, work hard at keeping on the honest path and i'' talk to y'all the next time around

Yea medicx!!!!! I know what it means to have violated the trust of a woman who means the world to you. I will say a prayer for you and your relationship.

Yesterday was a wonderful day with family and mother nature and I was consciously slowing life down and it felt so good - I was in the elusive zone. I will do my best to remain in this good place.

Happy Sunday and may it be lie free for everyone!

Good morning all! And congratulations, medicx! Your strength and resolve is inspiring. You as well, btr and asda! I’ve been lie-free through this morning and I’m committed to continuing it for the rest of the day. I’m thinking about how I have spewed lies to all and sundry. I had never been concerned enough to stop until my life unraveled. I was on the verge of losing the person who is most important to me because of my lies. Late one night I found this group and things began to turn around. We are rebuilding what we once had. It may never go back to what it once was, but it will be real and truthful. And that will make it better. So, to me the fight to be honest, and enduring the occasional distrust from my partner (to whom I’ve lied extensively) is worth every minute. I hope you all have a wonderful rest of the weekend. Stay strong and honest, everyone!

Hi, I'm Tom and I'm a liar who's sick and tired of being a liar. Today's a day of grieving for me and I hope I can find some support with my problem.

howdy y'all
well i made it through another day, and by the heavens, i'm glad this weekend is over...i'd like to clarify something, when i said i was up all night with my llady...we were, but it was strictly talk, i haven't gotten that far back with her. but i'm working on it, thanks to 'btr' and 'bng', 'asda' and all the other fine folks here who have given me the support we all need to make it through each day honestly....
stay strong, slow down, stoop, think and when you speak, speak true...

Thanks Medicx, the more we help each other, the more we help ourselves. I have learned so much from your and everyones posts. I just want to be able to use all that I learned when that moment comes to test my truthfulness. I just have to stop and think before giving my response. Its still so automatic to give that old preprogrammed response (read that lie). Anyway, welcome HT, you are in the right place. Like we tell all new members, go back and read old posts. There is lot of help there. Every have a great and truthful upcoming were.

Welcome HT - I recommend you come by every day and read what others have posted and provide your input - this group has an enormously positive impact on me and I have found bng, medics, asda and new comer's help guide and inspire me every day to stay truthful. It is a constant reminder of the struggles I've had and how to slow down, stay focused and remain truthful.

The past two days have been mercifully truthful. I'm grateful to everyone on this site and to my higher power. Happy Monday and MLK day to everyone.

Hi.
Name is Bernie and I lie to much. I have destroyed my life with my lies and omissions. I have to change my three boys need me. All my lies were exposed a week ago. Now I am working hard to change my ways. No lies for two days now. I will post my story soon. Just have a little time now. Thanks to all for sharing. You have given me some hope

Welcome bkay. Good on ya for two lie-free days! Each new day represents an opportunity venture down the path of truth. Today is another reminder to take it slow; think before speaking or acting and stay in the moment. Happy Tuesday everyone!

Have not checked in for a number of weeks now, but yesterday I realised I was going back to my bad habits so I thought that I would check in again. To try and stop my lying I am going to count how many lies I tell each day (even white lies) and then each day try and lower the number of lies. Hopefully my competitive nature will rid me of my problem.

Just checking in. Been doing good being truthful this past week, but have not had many significant tests or opportunities either. Worry some about the next one and how I'll handle it. Use my tools or slip back into the automatic old response. Oh well, try to stop and think first. Dealing with other issues and character defects as well. Sometimes seems like the circus preformer spinning plates on a stick. Just get one under control and two more are ready to fall. Oh well, guess that's life. Everyone have a great and truthful Wednesday.