morning y'all
welcome Catiethis is g ood supportive group of folks, hope all worke well for you.
another real *itch of a day yesterday. i looked like 'mj' walking about biting my tongue to remind me to keep my bloody mouth shut..like the other day i ended up leaving to keep from lying or embellishing anything that feel from my mouth. sosmetimes i think, becoming a monk and taking a vow og silence would be the best thing for me...
good luck to all of us and have a truthful day

Hi all – and welcome Alex and Caitlin! Come here often because there’s lots of help and support. I know that I have more of a tendency to screw up (not just with lying) when I haven’t checked in for a couple days. Here’s a case in point. I’ve been lie-free over the weekend and this morning. Then this morning I did a couple of thoughtless things. Not lies, but just unthinking behavior. Made what could have been fine into unpleasantness. It’s a constant struggle to be thoughtful, think of others, and then be truthful. And the experiences and support from everyone else here help to reinforce the things I need to do. So, obviously, five days without a check-in is WAY too long for me. Thanks everyone – here’s to a truthful (and thoughtful) rest of the day for us all!

excellent advice 'bng' ! ! something we all need to keep in mind, thanks for reminding me. like you i need to check n every day or so to keep reminding myself why i'm here and to keep me honest..

bng we are always here for you. and i love checking in and feeling the love and support from the group.
i had a good lie free day. hope you all had a good lie free day too

Way to go MJ!! And welcome to all the new members! Just wanted to check in. Just the action of typing in these words points me in the right direction. Nothing changes if nothing changes. If I just sit back and take it easy I slip back into my old ways. :( I saw a Nike ad along time ago - "there is no finish line", well that. Applies to me. I hope you all have a great and truthful day.

good work mj and great reminder asda! It is because of posts like what appear here that motivate me - thank you all.

Another day free of lies, but I realized there are omissions to cover up and ommissions that if avoided can actually do good. Don't be afraid to speak your mind after you have really thought about what and how to communicate.

Happy lie-free Tuesday ya'll!

morning all
boy howdy! this week seems to bring out all the old 'demons' and i find me fighting over and over with myself about what to say. many times walking away isn't an option and i stand there in silence...by the nine gods of my ancestors, i hope this time passes swiftly...being honest, like getting old, isn't for sissies.... and yeah it's good to come here and feel that support fro everyone...thank y'all...a good and honest day to all

No honesty is not for sissies medicx. I'm learning the importance not only of honesty, but of facing one's fears. In a word it 'suks' but I'm told it is the way, so I'm taking that path.

Happy Wednesday y'all.

Hello, my name is Lizzy and I think that I am a compulsive liar - definitely a liar. I just joined this group because I got fired from my job an hour ago because I was too lazy to go to work. And I lied about why I didn't call to cancel work - I told them that I was sick one day and had to help friends in a fire the next day. Neither statement was true. My friends were in a fire but I did not go to help them (they were safe anyway and didn't need help, but still). I am not sure that I am ready to stop lying about this issue though until I can get another job. Would love some support right now. Thank you.

Welcome Lizzy! You have come to the right place. Be sure to go back and read earlier posts, there is a lot of good help here. BTR you have hit upon what I think is my biggest underlying cause of lying. My fears. Facing up go my fears is the only way I can truly deal with my lying. They are the cause of my need to protect my self and "manage" what people think of me.I have been able to be lie free for several days now. With the help and support that I get from this group, I can make it another day. As the most interesting man in the world says, "stay truthful my friends".

good morning all. i think i had a slip. do jokes count as lies? i cleared it up tho. but that really got me thinking about lying for jokes...

had a good week so far. and am determined to succeed, with you all by my side

*hugs all around*

Welcome Lizz. If you're going to stop lying fix those lies you mentioned - I can't allow myself to hold onto lies. MJ, When I'm in question whether I lied or not I err on the side of assuming it's a lie and avoiding the circumstances.

Yesterday was a tough morning - no lies - actually it was the honesty that made the morning hard - once again facing my fears head-on. But the day turned out well because I was willing to address the tough issues.

All in all yesterday was a day of learning. Hope y'all have a great Thursday!

Hello Everyone,

It has been a crazy few weeks. I came clean about some very elaborate lies I had told since I was 14. It was difficult. When I am uncomfortable I want to lie. I lie to change how I feel and so I can live in another reality. I am so grateful today for this group! Just for today I will live free from lies and tell the truth no matter how painful.

Hi all – and welcome Lizzy and karenmarie. For the last two days I have been lie-free and am continuing this morning. Fear, immaturity, laziness, and a crummy self-image all contribute greatly to my lying. Fear, though, is the biggest one. I’m afraid of being alone, of someone actually knowing me (warts and all), fear of failure and of success…and the list goes on. If I think about it rationally and ask what I’ve got from being afraid, the answer is, “Exactly the opposite of what I want.” By lying I have increased the fear I’ve felt, increased my feeling of isolation and loneliness, and actually reduced the feeling of pleasure that I might derive from any successes. And I lied because it was initially easier to manufacture a façade (or so I thought), than to be honest, brave, mature, and hard-working. By continuing to behave in a dishonest, fearful, immature, lazy way I fill my life with misery. By being honest (and true to myself), people around me will like me (or not) based on who I really am. If I am honest and work hard, I can really enjoy my successes and learn from my failures. Thanks everyone – I am truly grateful for your support. I wish us all honesty and bravery for the rest of the day!

I'm a lair and I need help,please.