howdy all
thanks 'btr' and 'bng' both of you have made points that i'm guilty of, have been guilty of and hope to hell won't be guilty of in the future. 'bng' is correct in that having a professional therapist will certainly speed up the process, but for those of us who can't have that option, as he pointed out there is a strong support system here for us. a happy truthful day to y'all

great post bng and yes this group has helped me beyond measure to address my lying - even more than my therapist because here my mask is off.

Having said that yesterday was very powerful session with my therapist and I was painfully honest with her - I felt awful afterwards, but I suppose that is part of getting to the bottom of my lying - I can survice the pain, but I will not survive continual lying.

Yesterday was lie, omission, embellishment, image-management free and I will work towards the same goal today.

Happy lie-free Thursday to all

Hey everyone. Been doing good not lying these last couple of days. I am realizing that I have to work at it. It doesn't come naturally to me. I'd like to share a little nugget I picked up from my therapist this morning. Medicx, you have always said "slow down, think, then say the truth". I mentioned this to him and he said there is a little tool that can help. Close your mouth and inhale through your nose. That does several things for me. 1. I don't respond immediately without thinking. 2. The inhale gives me time to think appropriately and clear my head of any preconceptions. 3. I am aware of how I usually respond. And 4. I am now able to choose to tell the truth. I want to try to make this a habit. A good habit to replace a bad habit. Well, everybody have a good day.

howdy all, hope everything is going well for everyone...so far so good for me..the day isn't over yet so being vigilant about my 'mouth'. asda, that's an excellent bit of info from your therapist...while i didn't do the nose breathing thing, stopping myself from speaking quickly it will work the same way, but i like what you therapist says and will try to incorporate it into my daily routine...really good advice. thanks for sharing..'preciate it.

Thanks asda - love the advice and tried it out a few times yesterday. Yesterday was a very rough day - no lies, but my wife met with her therapist to discuss my addiction and my lying. I came very close to losing my wife - she is the best person I know and through lies and breaking sobriety I am on the verge of losing my best friend.

There is no more envelope to push, if I blow it one more time I lose everything - I just needed to get that out there.

Happy Friday and may your day and weekend be lie-free.

'btr' stick with it, slow and steady wins the race as the old saying goes...i'm certain that you can do it...working on one more day

Thanks medicx - no lies yesterday and so far so good today. Hang in there everyone.

hi all. i had a slip 2 days ago. i saw the lie coming out. felt it in slow motion. but didnt stop it. it was a silly lie too. i couldve told the truth but i didnt.
next time i hope to be truthful.
and i know the advice about thinking before speaking. but i thought about it and i made the decision to lie. it wasnt even reflex this time. sigh.
hope you all did better than i did

MJ - it's never too late to correct your lie.

This morning I realized I omitted something yesterday to me omission = lie; it was small and I did it to allow someone to feel better about themselves. I corrected the omission this morning without any adverse reactions. I simply explained my desire to be totally honest. The omission was about a lollipop - seriously, a lollipop. Their response? Okay.

I felt better and no harm done to the relationship. Today I will avoid lies and omissions.

mornin' y'all

hoping that everyone is doing well, temptation reared it's ugly head last night and i really had to back off and actually leave the area....damn some days are good and some are real asskickers....slow down, stop, and then speak and speak the truth. it gets harder and it gets easier...a good truthful day to everyone

I am Alex and this is my first time checking in. My lying has gotten out of control.

Welcome Alex, you have come to the right place. We are all liars here, but we have admitted that we have a problem and are taking steps to stop lying. Read back through past posts, you will find a lot of great advice and just maybe see yourself. Hello to everyone, I've gone without lying for another 24 hours. Hope you all had a great weekend and have a truthful week.

Hi, I'm Caitlin and it has been a full day without lying.

Yesterday was a good day full of self care and no lies, omissions, or embellishments. A good way to start the week..

May y'all have a truthful Monday! Welcome Alex - this site and this group have helped me immensely.

hi alex, hi caitline. welcome to the group
ive been lie free since my slip. its hard. ive started getting strange looks from biting my lips and refusing to respond. because its either i lie or i tell the truth and possibly upset somebody. stuck between a rock and a hard place. well im gonna chisel me a picture of truth in that rock. and silence to the hard place

wishing everybody a truthful day. if you stumble just get back up and try again. we are all hear to help
*hugs all around*
(yes im a hugger, lol)