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- Hello, again! According to my last post, it has been about 7 months since I've visited this group... And I'm thrilled to say, it has been a year of no contact with my past abuser! I'm doing a lot better, though I am still in the healing process and...
- Hello again. It has been a verrrrrry long time since I have made a post here, which is great, really. I have not heard from my ex abuser in months, and I am in a relationship with a wonderful guy. However, what I suffer from now is maintaining a...
- Haven't posted in a while, which I suppose is a good thing. I have been happily dating a new guy for a couple of months now: a very kind and sincere person. I had not heard anything from my abusive ex until, I can only assume he "heard it through...
- Things have been looking up for me... somewhat. I have recently met a fantastic guy... caring, kind, just amazing. I was ecstatic to hear when my abusive ex claimed he would be quitting the job we both worked at... but I was sad to learn, that for...
- Everyone here has been so helpful and supportive, and I am so thankful for you all. It is so nice to know that I am not alone and even more important, that I am not crazy. I have always been a little shy with sharing my writing/poetry, but I thought...
- So I have blocked my ex abuser's phone number and facebook, but we still unfortunately work at the same place,. Luckily, I haven't actually worked a shift with him in a couple of months.... I pull up to work today and see him walking out to my...
- Sorry for all the posts lately... I just thought I would let you guys see parts of the most recent (And Final!) conversation I held with my ex. Now that I am no longer in his control and no longer fooled by his once charming charade, I can analyze...
- I have a new number: he can no longer text me.I've blocked his Facebook. But he makes new accounts and messages me from them.Please try not to judge... I know that NO CONTACT is the only route to no longer let him affect me. I know he feels a sense...
- Lies, lies, lies. I feel like the whole relationship was based on lies. There were several things he told me that deep in my gut didn't sound right to me, but I believed him anyways, because I loved him... Actually, I'm not completely sure that...
- I feel absolutely brainwashed. It amazes me that even looking back on the relationship now, I still wonder if all the emotional abuse was merely in my head, and that he was not a bad person... Then, I look up "signs of a sociopath" and realize he...
- I almost feel silly writing about this... but after not hearing from my emotionally abusive ex for weeks, I received a text message from him tonight... Even just seeing his name drove a spike of fear into my heart. I immediately became panicky and...
- I've read a lot recently to try to understand gaslighting, and found a lot of it sounded very familiar in my last relationship.... But I'm not quite sure. What are your experiences with being gaslighted? Here are a couple examples from my...
- As I've mentioned in previous posts, I tried to stay friends with my abuser, per his request... but he refused to respect my personal boundaries and continued to try to control my life. He then made it clear that he was expecting for me to...
- I said I was never going to talk to him again... But I am sorry to say, I gave in tonight. I again told him I could only be his friend, NOTHING MORE. He seemed okay with it at the time as long as he could "have me in his life." He said he really...
- When I was in my abusive relationship, and had not really yet realized it was abusive, I was always sad, guilty, and ashamed, considering he always made me feel as if all of our problems were my fault, and that I treated him terribly, and worst of...