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- Anyone ever hear about this:Some people believe that if the second toe (the one next to the big toe) is longer than the big toe, it is meant that person would be the boss of the family.I have a crazy story which is 100% true and stupid at the...
- I read post from guys as well as my STBX also commented when she startd her A - that I should have helped and kept the house cleaner.I believe thats one of the 5 languages of love - "service".But it seems to be a common theme - my neighbors who were...
- This really doesnt have too much to do with infidelity per-say We will all go to see our maker someday no one lives forever - and look back at our lives and say - "we did the best we can with what we were given". We tried to have morals and...
- I was at a fund raiser for cancer this past weekend and I meet a guy (who was from the country Colombia) my STBX is from there as well. His wife is from Colombia and is a dentist and has been running around on him for the past 6 months with some...
- Midlife Crisis - is this a real thing? Anyone ever go through one?Another one of my famous questions, but I know my sister when she turned 40 all of the sudden didn't want to be married - no cheating - no infidelity - They tried couseling etc - I...
- Can anyone answer this question?When my STBX affair first came out I know I did a lot of self blaming. Blaming myself for the affair. She did a pretty good job of guilt transferring but I did my share as well like saying to myself - if I only...
- ConsequencesThis is just throwing out a question to folks what should be the consequences for someone cheating on someone lets start with someone married or single/ with kids.My STBX saw firsthand - when her father cheated on her mother that she...
- Most of you may know my story - NarrativeMy STBX cheated on me and shoved the A basically in my face I have 2 little boys ages 4 and 7 now. She had her AP move her out of the house STBX being brought up in Colombia South America by mainly nannies...
- I just wanted to run this by those who have had to deal with the break up of the family unit and how they have dealt with this scenario.It has gotten better for me personally but I still do not like the fact that the family unit has broken up and...
- Again from the article but I think people may find some real value in this. I think the term "shallow" at least hits home for what my situation was really about (along with resentment)."I believe many people have a very shallow understanding of...
- This is a good article on a news letter I receive from time to time on infidelity.The full article can be found at the link at the bottom.I just want to understand why it happened. What does the other person have that I don't?Theres no way to...
- ResentmentHere are my thoughts on this subject which is one that the CS mainly use to justify their A and crazytown entry.We normally resent those closest to us for this and that reason expectations we think OTHERS should be doing for us to make...
- I have no idea if this is going to help any BS out there or not but I wanted to put my thoughts down on this.My STBX is a major follower I am a major alpha male and leader. We are pretty much opposites which worked well for us for 10 years of...
- Somethings pop in my head from time to time - I guess my brain just suppresses most of what I went through in the beginning stages of my STBX going through her "gyrations" to protect myself mentally and to help me compartmentalize things - address...
- I just wanted to add this discussion to those who have found their post affair situation to be as complex as mine is. In a nut shell my life when from a speed limit of about 10 MPH to now around 100 MPH.Pre affair - I would go to work - come home...