Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
Most of you may know my story -
Narrative
My STBX cheated on me and shoved the A basically in my face I have 2 little boys ages 4 and 7 now. She had her AP move her out of the house STBX being brought up in Colombia South America by mainly nannies and maids who actually lived in her house (disconnect situation?) father cheated on her mother for a total of 6 years mother finding out and (STBX) having to kick her own father out of the house for 3 years her father lived outside of the house with this mistress mother crying everyday for those 3 years mother could not eat barely slept had her have her eye operating on to reopen it. So STBX saw this divastation/control first hand via her own father.
My STBX reason for cheating on me was there wasnt much passion or romance and she wanted that and found it with a guy that is 10 years older than us both awesome guy - 2 divorces/domestic violence bankruptcy a whole bunch of awesomeness basically. Once I found out I ran a background check confronted STBX hoping to snap her out of it she basically denied at first then told me there was more to him (later finding out substance abuse) and that everyone has a past.
We were married for 10 years (10 year itch?) her having a lot of resentment and for whatever fantasy reason.
I have a GF and have basically tried to cut STBX out of my life as best I can to basically save my own life.
Soccer game I have told my STBX that I do not think it has any add value for anyone if she shows up at the soccer games my oldest son (7 years old) has when it is my week to have them (we have 50/50 custody) because they are still confused as to why mommy lives here and who to go home with etc. So I told her please dont show up anymore when I have them.
So she does anyway this past Saturday and my GF is there GF was cheated on too with her ex of 14 years. STBX is basically hiding out and my GF goes to the car with my youngest son to get more water and the STBX walks by them youngest sees them my STBX is wearing her tightest cloths she can find trying to look all sexy and only says to my GF please take care of my son my youngest says hi to mommy then takes my GF by the hand and they go to the playground leaving STBX to go to her car.
My GF says her impression of her is that she is very Shallow I would tend to agree with her because she is really all about her beauty and if she really wanted to take care of her kids she would have never gone into crazy town with a known predator or have my boys anywhere around this POS. Beauty is only skin deep my GFs father gave her growing up a big lecture on this and told her that there are 100s of girls prettier than her that she better get her education because that is something that cant be taken away from her. My STBX father showed her how to run off into fantasy land via sin. Awesome.
Shallow leaving a good H for a crazy predator when you have a 4 and 7 year old shallow and selfish dont even describe it.
Narrative
My STBX cheated on me and shoved the A basically in my face I have 2 little boys ages 4 and 7 now. She had her AP move her out of the house STBX being brought up in Colombia South America by mainly nannies and maids who actually lived in her house (disconnect situation?) father cheated on her mother for a total of 6 years mother finding out and (STBX) having to kick her own father out of the house for 3 years her father lived outside of the house with this mistress mother crying everyday for those 3 years mother could not eat barely slept had her have her eye operating on to reopen it. So STBX saw this divastation/control first hand via her own father.
My STBX reason for cheating on me was there wasnt much passion or romance and she wanted that and found it with a guy that is 10 years older than us both awesome guy - 2 divorces/domestic violence bankruptcy a whole bunch of awesomeness basically. Once I found out I ran a background check confronted STBX hoping to snap her out of it she basically denied at first then told me there was more to him (later finding out substance abuse) and that everyone has a past.
We were married for 10 years (10 year itch?) her having a lot of resentment and for whatever fantasy reason.
I have a GF and have basically tried to cut STBX out of my life as best I can to basically save my own life.
Soccer game I have told my STBX that I do not think it has any add value for anyone if she shows up at the soccer games my oldest son (7 years old) has when it is my week to have them (we have 50/50 custody) because they are still confused as to why mommy lives here and who to go home with etc. So I told her please dont show up anymore when I have them.
So she does anyway this past Saturday and my GF is there GF was cheated on too with her ex of 14 years. STBX is basically hiding out and my GF goes to the car with my youngest son to get more water and the STBX walks by them youngest sees them my STBX is wearing her tightest cloths she can find trying to look all sexy and only says to my GF please take care of my son my youngest says hi to mommy then takes my GF by the hand and they go to the playground leaving STBX to go to her car.
My GF says her impression of her is that she is very Shallow I would tend to agree with her because she is really all about her beauty and if she really wanted to take care of her kids she would have never gone into crazy town with a known predator or have my boys anywhere around this POS. Beauty is only skin deep my GFs father gave her growing up a big lecture on this and told her that there are 100s of girls prettier than her that she better get her education because that is something that cant be taken away from her. My STBX father showed her how to run off into fantasy land via sin. Awesome.
Shallow leaving a good H for a crazy predator when you have a 4 and 7 year old shallow and selfish dont even describe it.
Deciding to come to that game to show she could probably occupied a lot of the week leading up and the week following in her head. Meanwhile you were busy moving on and living your life. She's only hurting herself.
I have no idea how she lives with herself. She seems to like to tourture herself by calling up the boys when I have them to find out what we are doing - which we are normally either swimming or playing some sport or go to some event or at the zoo/aquarium/park/movies. When I have them - we are doing all kinds of things and the boys tell her this.
She would make a great case study because to my mind - I have no idea how anyone could put her children through what she has and be around a POS guy that she is.
None of it makes any sense to me - I could care less at this point - I just want what is best for my kids.
no wonder she's looking for validation elsewhere
wow
Did she get a green card, and if so when?
Sorry - I did write a lot - my STBX's father cheated on her mother.
My current GF's father told her (current GF) that she is pretty but that there are a lot of pretty girls out there - that getting her education is more important than beauty. That stuck with her and she was glad he had told her that.
Did my STBX show signs of being shallow? She isn't the best at conversations - does not care about deep intelligent topics but neither are most people I guess - except my current GF - she reads forbes magazine - listens to NPR etc.
However, My STBX is all about her looks - wanted to have this done and that done. She has had surgeries before - I guess thats just normal for girls in that region growing up - with so much beauty down there (and the norm) - which I don't really care about - only thing I care for is that I am not cheated on/family etc and that I would have figured that that would have been a huge point for her as well having her father cheat on her mother. That I never cheated on her.
We were married for 10 years. Dated about 2 years before getting married.