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• Narcissistic and Sociopathic Abuse Survivors
  

  Discussion Comment

  Posted by: bananna

  Posted: 03/09/2020

  bananna commented on the discussion Awakening.

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  Joined New Group

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  Posted: 03/09/2020

  bananna joined the group Narcissistic and Sociopathic Abuse Survivors.

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  Joined New Group

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  Posted: 03/09/2020

  bananna joined the group Codependency.

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  Journal Comment

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  Posted: 03/09/2020

  bananna commented on bananna's journal abuse

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  abuse

  Posted by: bananna

  Posted: 11/29/2019

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  abuse: physical, and emotional. for years and years, decades, really, i believed that i had an easy childhoood. you know why? because my parents told me i did. my mom, i remember her saying "i may swat your butt every once in a while, but it's nothing like what my dad used to do to me."i never had black eyes that i wore to school. i was never beaten until i bled. and because of this, because of comparison, and because of what i was told, i truly wanted to and DID believe FOR DECADES that i had...

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  Joined New Group

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  Posted: 11/29/2019

  bananna joined the group Physical & Emotional Abuse.

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  Journal Comment

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  Posted: 10/22/2018

  bananna commented on bananna's journal is it actually ending?

• Pet Loss Support
  

  Discussion Comment

  Posted by: bananna

  Posted: 10/18/2018

  bananna commented on the discussion My dog izzi.

• SOBs Significant Others of Borderlines
  

  Discussion Comment

  Posted by: bananna

  Posted: 09/28/2018

  bananna commented on the discussion the past 8 years.

• SOBs Significant Others of Borderlines
  

  Discussion Comment

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  Posted: 04/29/2018

  bananna commented on the discussion the past 8 years.

• SOBs Significant Others of Borderlines
  

  Discussion Comment

  Posted by: bananna

  Posted: 04/18/2018

  bananna commented on the discussion the past 8 years.

• SOBs Significant Others of Borderlines
  

  Discussion Comment

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  Posted: 04/14/2018

  bananna commented on the discussion has anyone ever had this kind of experience in a r.

• SOBs Significant Others of Borderlines
  

  has anyone ever had this kind of experience in a r

  Posted by: bananna

  Last Reply: bananna 04/14/2018

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  i don't want my boyfriend to blame himself for all our relationship problems, but it would be nice if he could actively recognize that it takes significant effort on my part to be exposed to his behavior. he doesn't even need to get any kind of diagnosis for what's going on with him (nor do i think he would ever pursue it). i just want some compassion from him, and some gratitude for my patience. especially before it runs out...looking at the personality support group postings i see a lot of...

• SOBs Significant Others of Borderlines
  

  Discussion Comment

  Posted by: bananna

  Posted: 04/12/2018

  bananna commented on the discussion has anyone ever had this kind of experience in a r.

• SOBs Significant Others of Borderlines
  

  the past 8 years

  Posted by: bananna

  Last Reply: johnnycake 03/16/2019

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  i realized about a week ago that i have spent the last 8 years helping my partner pretend that he doesn't have a mental illness. i have spent the last 8 years diffusing and caretaking his reactivity.when it's good, it's good, and i just want to let it be good.when it's bad, i amaze myself at my gifts of diffusion.i impress myself with my water-resistant duck back.i commend myself on my empathy for his struggles.and i swallow my pride and ignore my own needs-enough to finally notice that i...

• SOBs Significant Others of Borderlines
  

  Discussion Comment

  Posted by: bananna

  Posted: 04/12/2018

  bananna commented on the discussion The Cluster B Disorders.

• Healthy Relationships
  

  Discussion Comment

  Posted by: bananna

  Posted: 02/26/2018

  bananna commented on the discussion stuck.

• Healthy Relationships
  

  Discussion Comment

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  Posted: 02/26/2018

  bananna commented on the discussion stuck.

• Healthy Relationships
  

  Discussion Comment

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  Posted: 02/22/2018

  bananna commented on the discussion stuck.

• Healthy Relationships
  

  Discussion Comment

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  Posted: 02/21/2018

  bananna commented on the discussion stuck.

• Celiac Disease
  

  Discussion Comment

  Posted by: bananna

  Posted: 02/21/2018

  bananna commented on the discussion gluten shaming.

• Celiac Disease
  

  gluten shaming

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  Last Reply: bananna 02/21/2018

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  i get so annoyed by people who don't believe in my intolerance. fortunately i live in portland, which is the food allergy capital of the world, so i can still dine out. but sometimes i have to ask those very pointed questions about cross-contamination, and it's frustrating to get impatient responses.or hearing people talk about being gluten intolerant like it's a fad. why would i voluntarily give up pizza and beer and burritos??!!the roommate situation is a bit difficult, too. i've been told i...

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  Joined New Group

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  Posted: 02/20/2018

  bananna joined the group Celiac Disease.

• Pet Loss Support
  

  thank you for starting this group

  Posted by: bananna

  Last Reply: reneep31 07/30/2017

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  hopefully others might join soon.in trying to comprehend the pain that i am feeling, i have read numerous articles on pet loss. they all have the same theme: that losing a beloved pet feels just as painful as losing a human family member, if not more so, because nobody else that you knew so well gave you such unconditional love.in march one of my cats went into rapid decline and died from an aggressive cancer. by the time i noticed something was wrong he only had a few weeks of life left. i...

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  Joined New Group

  Posted by: bananna

  Posted: 07/07/2017

  bananna joined the group Pet Loss Support.

• Bereavement
  

  Discussion Comment

  Posted by: bananna

  Posted: 04/26/2017

  bananna commented on the discussion I miss my grandpa.

• Bereavement
  

  unexpected coping mechanism

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  Posted: 04/17/2017

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  i recently lost someone i was very close to just over a month ago. i feel like i have been doing what is necessary to take care of myself and help me process my grief in a healthy way... even though it still hurts like hell... but i'm not sure what is happening- i feel like i have developed an unusual coping mechanism.i am in a long-term committed relationship with my partner, whom i love dearly and am also very attracted to. he has been tremendously supportive. but for whatever reason i have...

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  Joined New Group

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  Posted: 04/17/2017

  bananna joined the group Bereavement.