Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group

Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.

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  • momto4

    New

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    I was sent to this site by someone not the divorce support group. I have also posted on the sexual abuse site once. I'm not entirely sure if this is where I belong as I don't feel he's ever been physically abusive. For some past on our relationship. I met my husband when I was about 17, we started dating at around 18. I was raised very religious. No sex before marriage. When we started dating I...
  • Paintbynumbers

    Stories of self aware narcissists/abusers?

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    I have been reading about narcissistic abuse as part of my healing journey from an emotionally abusive relationship. One thing that has stuck with me is that my abuser acknowledged that he had "never loved anyone ever" and that he thinks that he has "a problem with empathy". Part of me feels, because of the context that this was divulged, that it was a way of provoking guilt and sympathy to...
  • wsmith

    Divorce Stories...

    I've been doing a lot of research on "How to divorce a narcissist".  I'm actually glad the sites I've found don't sugar coat it.  I think preparation and planning are key.  I'm on a long term plan myself and hope to get to the point of filing this Fall.  I want to hear your stories, the good, the bad, the ugly.  Did you get what you wanted (i.e. custody, housing, financial)?  What...
  • HELPmemattter143

    Lost

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    I haven't been here in a while I was very nervous about the feedback I don't think I could leave her it's my fault she is like this I ruined her life I do deserve this I just need help in making her see that I can be worth more I need to figure out how to get her to love me to forgive me for what I am witch is a product of her rape I don't know how to show her I can be more and that I love her...
  • HELPmemattter143

    Good vs bad

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    Nobody is all good and nobody is all bad I just have to fight hard for the good I understand why I deserve this I'm never going to give up I can't she doesn't treat everyone like this it's because of how I came in the world I know I don't have control of being born but I was I just need to figure out a way to show her I'm sorry and that she is loved then she might forgive me and love me back dose...
  • Melflorea

    Trust

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    Hello I am new to this group.I was in a verbal physical sexual abusive marriage for 18 years I 've went to counseling hour names drank to cope with this.I m in a new relationship now.this past has been hitting me lately with trust .do I trust me not to overload and overwhelm him with the confidence and love and reassurance I need while I heal here or am I struggling to just trust period ....I...
  • loras123

    Self nurture/love

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    I finally did what I dreamed about, I left the person who called me names, put me down and pushed me around. Why don't I feel better? I am just having a hard time, feeling depressed, even though everything is going okay. Can you guys give me more ideas for self nurturing? I think I am trying to do more of that, but it is hard to think of things.....
  • Paintbynumbers

    Book recommendations for healing?

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    Does anyone have any book recommendations for healing after narcissistic abuse?I have recently got out a few books on emotional abuse from the library though have found that, while they addressed feelings like guilt and shame felt from emotional abuse (perhaps from childhood), they didn't address other feelings like paranoia, jealousy, or being fearful which have come from abusive tactics and...
  • rose07042k

    Just realized

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    Hi.I just realized two weeks ago that what my abusers has taught me all my life was wrong. I was taught all my life that no one cares and that others would only used me etc and that only they cared. But they had abused me in different ways and that what they taught me was wrong. I have met some much people that cares about me and my well being. I am learning to trust others yet not everyone...
  • yogacat3

    Pursuing No Contact with Parents. Advice?

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    I am pursuing no/extremely minimal contact with my parents. Since I was a teen they’ve used money as a way to control me - intentionally opening up accounts in my name, holding all car and tax documents, and refusing to share this information with me even though I’m 27. They are extremely manipulative and act like like I’m causing problems when I attempt to manage my own life. They use...
  • HELPmemattter143

    Anybody out there

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    Hello my name is Candice I was on a crisis chat line witch referred me here I'm seeking help I'm in a situation that I'm afraid there is no way out and it's so confusing and twisted my mom was raped and I was born she hates me and believes in different religion she has sold me my whole life I can't take it any more I feel the only way out is to end it I'm so alone and my story is different and I...
  • wsmith

    "Verbal abuse has to be unsolicited"

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    HAHA!  Yesterday my husband and I were in another one of our non-productive hour+ long discussions about why I don't love him and how I think he is hurting me, or as he says why I am trying to run his life discussions.  I brought up verbal abuse to him again, only because he brought it up first in a snarky tone like he always does.  I finally stopped and asked him what he thought verbal...
  • paradiselost

    Emotionally abusive mother

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    I'm a 20 years old, and I have been dealing with a more than dysfunctional relationship with my mother for the most part of 8 years now. I used to think it was a teenage phase and my mother's controlling personality would wane when I moved away to university, but that didn't happen unfortunately.When I was 13 I got involved with 'emo' people and self-harm - I was a silly child, there wasn't...
  • loras123

    Is it too late?

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    I posted in the divorce group and was told I needed counseling and I should come over here!  Now, I feel self conscious. I left my abusive husband about six months ago after 16yrs and one 13yr old daughter.  Verbal abuse and emotional abuse started pretty early on and some physical abuse soon after. Physical abuse, pushing, throwing me on the floor, threatening to punch, about once a year to...
  • rastafairytail

    How did it come to this?

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    I'm curious to know how other survivors have gone through the mess of trying to process everything that occurred within their relationships? I've been stuck for a long time trying to prove to him how his treatment of me; the cheating, the lies the name calling, the yelling, the discard, the threats, intimidation and so on, have been contributing factors to ways I've responded to him when he's...