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Trait 9: We confuse love with pity and tend to "love" people we can "pity" and "rescue".This one I would need to ponder a bit more. I am not sure this one fits me well... I have never really thought...

Trait 8: We became addicted to excitement.I can relate to this to a degree. I go through sperts in my life where I want to stay home and not do much! Boring is peaceful. But as I got older I wanted...

Now, I haven't properly "mourned" kicking my dad out- if that's a thing?? But I am now at work trying NOT to cry my eyes out...I recieved two picture messages from my dad and decided I wasn't strong...

Trait 7: We get guilt feeling when we stand up for ourselves instead of giving in to others.This is me! All the way. I have been aware of this for a very long time now. I even tell people, I am a...

Trait 6: We have a overdeveloped since of responsibility,and its easier for us to be concerned with others rather than ourselves; this enables us to not look too closely at our own faults, etc.I can...

Today marks a full week that I officially kicked my father out of my house. When I drive through the town, I no longer wander my eyes to see the town in fear I will see him! I just know if I see him...

Trait 5: We live life from the viewpoint of victims and are attracted by the weakness in our love and friendship relationships.This one gets me... I don't feel like I LIVE life from the viewpoint of...

Trait 4: We either became alcoholics, we married them or both,or find another compulsive personality such as a workaholic to fulfill our sick abandonment needs.This one is my fear... becoming like my...

Siting here at work and my husband texted me that my wine has arrived at my house! I got a great deal (6 bottles for $30). Since I am pregnant I decided I didn't want to pass up a good deal for good...

3.We are frightened by angry people and any personal critcism.This. Raise a glass to this trait! I know I can relate to this trait with all my heart; however, is it from being an ACOA or from a...

Trait 2: We became approval seekers and lost our identity in the process.I will say, this is me to a T. My words are often, "Who cares what others think? Fuck them!" but my actions tell an entirely...

Trait 1: We became isolated and afraid of people and authority figures.Growing up, or half way through growing up, I do remember my time of OCD and the moments that made me considered "isolated"....

The "laundry list" is being used a lot to discribe the side effects of ACOAs and I ahven't not fully explored this... I think I should, as homework in my healing, really take the time to go through...

I always hate starting journals because I never know where to begin... where to end... and who I am addressing. I suppose since I am starting my road to healing and recovery from being an enabler to...