confusedfairy
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- So a thought occurred to me: We all take a lot of hell thanks to this experience, and we take it on multiple fronts. Some of this is due to ours, and other people's upbringing. For example:1. Society doesn't seem to acknowledge that married...
- Been a while since I've been on here. Our divorce was finalized March 5 of this year, and while her coming out as trans certainly brought out the absolute worst in her, it wasn't truly what destroyed our divorce. A variety of horrible behaviors...
- So, I haven't been on here in a great long while. For those of you that remember me as a mod over at Susan's, I am no longer a mod, and am quite angry with how they treated me. A long story I'm not gonna hash out here. So if somebody is looking...
- So, today I got a command from my ex (but she used please and thank you! ugh)- she wants me to use she pronouns with our 2 yo son, and 'dama.' Turns out she's out of the closet now, but didn't want to discuss what to say to our son's pre-school. ...
- Every now and then my ex sounds rational again. And I get nostalgic, and think to myself, what if? (the what ifs are nonspecific, and are usually me hoping for the happy bits of the past to come back.) Then she does something awful, and helps...
- So today I went in and signed the divorce papers, and I feel like I unplugged life support to my dear husband. I feel like I gave up hope on the husband I had ever coming back. He wasn't perfect, to be sure, but he was better than this new being...
- So the way I described my experience with my spouse transitioning, and the impending divorce is that it feels like I got thrown in the garbage. I may have been the one to see a lawyer first, but it was with the intention of drawing up separation...
- So, I used to be on here, ended up in the process of divorcing my spouse (MtF) (still am in the midst of it) and learning some things:1. My spouse had some awful traits that were always there and I shouldn't have tolerated them back then either....
- So after some awful things my ex's lawyer did (yes, I know, somewhat on ex's go ahead), and my ex realizing her feelings, she wants to reconcile, and is toying with firing her lawyer. True to her word, she's willing to negotiate rather than go...
- https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/K%C3%BCbler-Ross_modelThe Elizabeth Kubler Ross Model- I spent time trying to deny it (maybe this is just a product of past experiences!), and angry about the transition (this one has always been combined with my...
- Googled 'my husband got replaced by an alien' and it found this:https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/schlepping-through-heartbreak/201312/my-husband-was-abducted-aliens-0I don't to my knowledge think I've been cheated on, but who else does this...
- Called my spouse crying about the fact that I didn't want a divorce. I can't change her, but I don't know how me changing will help things here, if she doesn't want to be married, there's nothing I can do. Asked her what she wants:She wants to...
- So if one looks at studies (or so I was told in med school), most people actually test as bisexual, and there are far fewer people that are truly homo/ heterosexual. My spouse decided she wants a divorce today. Turns out me getting a lawyer to...
- Hi, As in a previous post, I wrote about the fact that my spouse's sibling interfered in a squabble of ours:I was on the phone with sibling, and walked out to find spouse meditating on a sword. We have some real and some show pieces in our...
- My spouse is MtF and it's only been a few months since she came out to me. Has been friendly sometimes, like greeting me with good mornings, and the occasional link to an interesting article the way she used to do. But then argues and tells me...