So, today I got a command from my ex (but she used please and thank you! ugh)- she wants me to use she pronouns with our 2 yo son, and 'dama.'  Turns out she's out of the closet now, but didn't want to discuss what to say to our son's pre-school.  It also seems it's not my business when she came out of the closet, all I'm permitted to know is 'recently.'

So when people ask me how is my ex-husband, apparently I was just supposed to spend the rest of my life waffling. 

When people at the preschool ask my father which parent my son is going with for the weekend, he must come up with something appropriate to say that won't confuse the preschool.  Without prior instruction.  Apparently this was a legitimate issue when he and my mother dropped my son off on Friday morning.  

When my son uses dama instead of dada and the preschool innocently tries to correct it, thinking it a toddler mispronunciation, that's just fine.  My son can be utterly confused as to just what in blazes he's supposed to call his father, when people are contradicting each other. 

My sister points out that if the preschool thinks my ex is three sheets to the wind, given what they see (nailpolish, earrings, foundation, lipstick), vs. what they don't yet know, that it's her problem.  

I suppose since the closet is gone now, and my son deserves to be assessed by his teachers appropriately, if they were to ask me about my son, I would tell them what was going on. 

Oh and then during my phone call with my son, she insulted the silly story I was telling him!  In front of him!!  She had me ready to run and hide in a hole to cry!  I'd like to see her come up with a good story off the cuff like that! (Not that she ever does)  

I'm getting sick of the control attempts.