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- This weekend is the first overnight my kids are having with their dad. I am so sad about it. Not just to be without them, but because they so didn't want to go, and we didn't have a choice. Last night they were up half the night, one crying and...
- My stbx and I are in the process of divorce and have been separated for a few years. During the marriage he was abusive. I was looking forward to finally getting free of him, but the divorce process has been a nightmare. One of the worst things I...
- Would you call the police to document emotional abuse (screaming, blaming type meltdown by a parent) of a child?The abuser has a history of physical and emotional abuse, and does not live with the kids any longer. He is, however, seeking to remove a...
- I was a SAHM for 16 years during our marriage. I spoke to my lawyer today and she advised me that the courts will consider me employable since I am able-bodied and they will just assume I can make twice minimum wage when they calculate child...
- This is totally absolutely gross, but I'm just going to go ahead and ask it.This week I had a very large flare up on my lower abdomen, about the size of a softball. It was hot to the touch and inflamed for 4-5 days, and it burst last night. When it...
- We are at the stage of the divorce where we are dividing assets. During our marriage, my ex was very controlling financially. He kept the house and all the bills in his name only, and would not let me see any bank accounts or financial documents. It...
- My ex, like many abusers, spent years during our marriage and after our separation sending me cruel or ranting emails where he would accuse me of random untrue things, tell me what a terrible person I was, or just generally rant and rave. Those...
- So many of you have supported me as I faced a really terrifying court hearing, I wanted to let you know how it went.I had to go to court and face my abuser and WHILE HE WAS SITTING THERE talk about the abuse. It was absolutely terrifying and it took...
- That abuse is hard on their memory?I consider myself to normally be an intelligent person, and in most of my life I am quite capable. But when it comes to talking about the abuse, so many of my memories are just gone. I have to speak in a court...
- I could just use a bit of support or a virtual hug. Fighting against my ex in court is so overwhelming. He s so manipulative, and it seems like he stops at nothing. I know I have to keep going but it's exhausting and scary.
- Hi friends, I'm wondering if I can pick your brains momentarily. I need some help getting some specific wording correct, and I am so upset by the issue that I can't think clearly.I mentioned in a different thread that as part of my divorce process,...
- I'm on my way to court, and I hate testfying against stbx. Court is so triggering for me. If you can spare a minute this morning, your good thoughts are much appreciated!
- Hopefully by now you are all familiar with Ilene's Clarifying Card Exercise to identify and really visualize patterns of abuse.http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exerciseI started...
- I won't repeat all the details, but I have been dealing with parents who have supported my abuser ever since I left him. We have been estranged and this weekend we had a confrontation tat did not start out well. I posted about it at...
- So my parents are here visiting for the weekend. We have not spoken in 6 months because of their bizarre support for my (and my children's) abuser, including calling me a liar and supporting him financially. I had prepped for this visit in therapy...