Larry, does your wife get any help for herself at all? Al-Anon, or therapy or anything?

And, asda, after we get this Thursday meeting off the ground and running I'm sure that we'll be trying to set up another consistent meeting on a different day/time. What other days/time work better for you?

Laura O.

Hello my name is David and I'm a liar. I hate looking at the words I just wrote because it congers up images of the boogey man in my head. This evil guy who wants to hurt and deceive people; which don't feel I am. I am a guy who HATE disappointing people and this is where it stems from. I have been lie free for 6 days. For the first time in my life I met a women who not only can see pick them out but cares enough to work through this with me. I've been in therapy for a while and we are now going to couples therapy but to tell you the truth until I found this I thought I was alone in the world. Knowing I'm not is a great feeling.... I hope everyone has a great day!

Hello, group. I was engaged on Valentine's Day and started lying again yesterday. I only had a couple of drinks, but I just will not allow myself to let go and be honest with my girlfriend/fiancee about. The consequences are of course much worse when I lie, but I am struggling to accept that fact. I think sticking with this group on a much more regular basis will be a big help.

Thank you Laura. I really appreciate your suggestion of an alternate time. I am more comfortable with this format, so I'll stick with it. I would like to say welcome back! I have only been on this site since October, but I am grateful to you for founding it. This was here for me when I needed it. So once again, thank you and welcome back.

I'm Larry and I'm a I have a problem with lying but I made it through today without lying.

welcome sailor and taureau and congratulations Larry.

Yesterday was lie-free and a good day. Feeling my demons creep up so turning to my Higer Power for strength.

Happy Lie-Free Tuesday to one and all.

Hi everyone! I've been trying really hard not to lie to my family, so far so good. Not easy when you been doiing it for a while. I hope everyone has a great day! I also started praying more, it helps.

Michelle and BTR - I agree - praying to a higher power is the only way to change a heart. Another lie free day for me but not a good one relationship-wise. Progress took a step backwards but it is probably for the best. We were moving too fast towards reconciliation but we are still both broken people who need time to heal independently. Still over all, my mood and relationships are way better than they were when I found this support site. At least now reconciliation is on the table as something that may be possible in the future, assuming I'm able to actually demonstrate a sustained changed heart. This will only happen with God's help and power but I see prayers being answered already.

Just a reminder that were are meeting Thursdays at 5:30pm PST. Next one is on 2/20/14 and here are the details:

Computer = www.anymeeting.com/liarsanonymous
USA Telephone = 213-416-1560 (non toll - just counts as minutes against your calling plan)
Access code = 065 4757 # (or maybe 630 8781 #)
If the system asks for an audio pin, use = * 110 #

Hope to see you online this Thurs!

Well done michelle. Larry, it takes time, be patient. You are so right in that when people are broken and hurting it is easy to turn back to what oneknows, but in my case rushing the process meant repeating our mistakes. Now both my wife and I are working on our issues independently, but sharing our journeys to help one another heal; understanding the future is uncertain but we are willing to put that future in the hands of our Higher Power.

I realize the Higher Power stuff probably turns some off, I know I struggled with the concept for years; but it wasn't until I was truly ready to turn my will over to my Higher Power that my life improved and I was able to pull out of my death spiral.

good morning all. i have been absent for a while. very busy with school, but oddly i have been lie free for the most part. and i caught myself in my little slips and corrected them.
for the first time in weeks i feel sure about what im doing and how to get it done. but sadly sometimes i just need to stop and borrow some strength from someone. sometimes i just need a loving hug, sigh...

i wish you all a lie free day. avoid your triggers where possible and think before you speak where not.
*hugs all around*

Good Morning All.... Yesterday was a good but rough day. One more day lie free under my belt - that's all that matters. My biggest problem is I always feel like the ghost in the corner is there waiting to pounce. Even though the here and now is being cleaned up the nooks and crannies of years gone by that have been forgotten may rise up and punch me in the heart at any moment...I guess its all part of paying the price and getting clean and lie free. Have a great lie free hump day everyone...

Yesterday some resentments popped up - but dealt with them without falling into a cycle of being defensive which often lead to omissions, or attacks on others - just faced the situation and it turned out fine.

Lie-free yesterday. I think I'm on a streak - just hope I'm being ruthlessly honest with myself.

Happy lie free Thursday. Don't forget about our online call this evening for those wh can make it!

BTR - I totally know what you mean. I was accused of saying something tonight that I did say and I did not handle it well. I got very defensive and started raising my voice. Not good for the other person. I started to fall right back into old patterns. I guess maybe because I'm trying so hard to be honest the when someone suggests I said something that I didn't I take it pretty personally and get upset, then when it is pointed out to me that I am upset and raising my voice, I turn it around on them and say they do the same thing. One of my biggest challenges is to NOT deflect when something is pointed out to me.

Glad you had a lie free day yesterday. So far today I'm lie free!

To anyone else reading this, our online meeting got moved to tomorrow Friday at 5:30 PST (for this week only) due to conflicts with schedules. Hope to see everyone tomorrow at http://anymeeting.com/liarsanonymous

Larry I have been starting to say 'I was wrong' rather than 'I'm sorry' in situations like that - it is amazing how a different choice of words completely changes the discussion.

Look forward to our call this evening. Yesterday was lie-free and as a corollary benefit I find by slowing down I am in better control of my emotions so when an idea or an opinion is 'attacked' I am able to calmly respond in a detached manner. This is good because it's when I heatedly engage with someone that I fall back into old patterns, ie lying.

Happy Friday and may it be lie-free to everyone.