Friday at last.. Thanks to Laura for leading a very good online meeting last night on boundaries and Sailor thank you for volunteering to lead next week's meeting.

This weekend will mark 90 days of abstinence from lying. Someone asked me what I'm going to do differently now that I hit the 'magic' 90 day mark and my response is I'm going to keep doing what I've been doing - if it works, why change? This in no way indicates I'm 'cured' from lying... hardly. I will live with this and my past lies for the rest of my life, but it does represent a path of recovery and is truly one day at a time.

Hope y'all have a great and lie-free Friday.

Hi, I'm Tim - and I am a liar. I am happy I found this group. I have not lied in 37 days.

Hi Tim. Welcome to the forum.
I agree with BTR that last night's meeting on boundaries was good - thanks Laura. Nice to see we had 6 people there! The weekly meeting is growing.
Congratulations BTR on a big milestone upcoming this weekend! You should be proud.

I'm working this week on surrendering my life and will to my higher power. I read a good quote in the book "The Purpose Driven Life" that said:

"You know you're surrendered to God when you rely on God to work thing out instead of trying to manipulate others, force your agenda, and control the situation. You let go and let God work. You don't have to always be "in charge"... Instead of trying harder, you trust more. You also know you're surrendered when you don't react to criticism and rush to defend yourself."

Welcome Tim - 37 days - well done! Hi Larry, good to have you back, I missed your wise counsel. Today is day 90 - at our cabin by the creek, in the woods, secluded - a place to be contemplative - remain lie-free, work my steps, and connect more closely with my Higher Power.

I too would like to share something I read from '90 Days of Meditations.'

'I had always been a control freak who demanded, manipulated or threatened until I got the outcome I wanted. My attitudes encouraged me to lie.

I realized surrender was the only road to recovery. I trusted my Higher Power to work His will and let go of the outcomes.'

I'm Tim, and I haven't lied in 38 days.

Hey all,
First, congratulations BTR! Ninety days is a fabulous achievement. Good job, Tim. Today I'm floundering around, and I'm feeling rudderless. My marriage has gone back to being rocky - largely because of my behavior. At my core, I'm weak, cowardly, and lazy. A pathetic combination. Five months after my first post here and I'm somewhat better than I was (don't lie as much), but nowhere near as good as I could be. I just don't work hard enough, and I don't do enough things differently/better than before to make a significant change. I don't respect my effort, so why should anyone else respect and trust me? Need to do better, work harder. Wishing everyone an honest Sunday!

BNG - don't be so hard on yourself - the past is the past - learn from it. You were a tremendous inspiration to me three months ago so you know what you need to do. I read a beautiful quote re: hitting rock bottom - maybe you haven't hit it yet, but it sounds like you're close enough to see it. I was damn close to having 'my ass up against the wall, sucking plaster.' Not a pretty thought and no place we can sustain for long.

As the Big Book says: 'half measures availed us nothing.' Ya have to be ALL in to make this work and I know you can do it.

Tim - well done - one day at a time

Hi Im Lee and i am a liar, i will start my honesty clock today

tough day today for me. emails from my wife were all about business and bills, no emotions. Just tough dealing with the consequences of my sin and subsequent honesty about it. Consequences suck. Feels like I constantly go back and forth between being focused/excited about my higher power's new course for my life and then having to come to grips with dealing with the mess I have left in my wake up to this point.

Today is day 13 of being honest. I had to cut myself a little slack and stop counting just days in a row with no lies. I have modified it now to be honest days which I define as either lie-free or if I do say something that is not the truth I immediately correct myself. I was getting discouraged at having to start my count over all the time. Sometimes the lie comes out so quick I just can't seem to catch it before it leaves my mouth. However I feel that correcting a lie as soon as it is said is the first/best step to stopping the lying all together. I think I can maintain longer string of "honest" days. :-)

It's Monday and it has been 39 days since I lied. Still struggling with my wife believing me which I understand. It's just sucks that I hurt our relationship by lying.

I am re-starting my clock. Embarrassing after my earlier post, but my wife called me on something and she was right. Damn it! Day 1....

Hi. I'm Elliot. I just joined this group. I last lied yesterday.

Day 14 is drawing to a close with no lies. :-) That is 2 weeks, that is also half a month! One day at a time.

Welcome Elliot; 2nd chance - good that you can accept your wife's recognition. It's one thing to tell a lie - as Iswan noted sometimes they just fly out of our mouths before we're even aware - it is quite another thing to make amends and admit we lied. That's how we start to heal, ie recognizing we have a problem and fixing every little lie we tell as soon as we become aware - no exceptions.

Sometimes I have to sit by myself and ask if I'm being honest with myself when it comes to emotions - when I take the time to reflect I often find I am not and for me that is where honesty with others begins.

Happy lie-free Tuesday to everyone.

Hi Im Lee and Im liar, just checking in today