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- I am in a bit of a dilemma and was wondering what your suggestions might be. Our ES is getting married in two months. He apologized for his bad behavior towards us a few months ago after getting engaged. He said that "it wasn't worth it to him...
- Estrangement is such a long and bumpy road. I don't post or comment too often any more because I'm in a place where things have just been complicated and rough for so long that I don't have much new in the way of insight or energy. But I still...
- I guess it wouldn't be a holiday if something didn't go haywire in our family. Every holiday seems to only bring drama. We were having a pleasant Thanksgiving day with my family until late in the evening when we got a call from our ED. Probably...
- Hello friends. This weekend we are going to see all of our ECs at one of their weddings. It has been two years since we've seen any of them and barely anything positive has happened in those two years. They have slandered us publicly and one has...
- Hi friends. I haven't written much lately but have been checking in. Just wanted to ask for your prayers again. Everything with our ECs was so terrible last year and remains not great still. Exactly one year ago we brought a sweet kitten into...
- Just got home from a week visiting my father in the hospital. He's in a wheelchair for the first time in his life. At 1 am, after driving home for 15 hours straight I found a message on our answering machine from a lawyer. Our ES is suing us. ...
- Sitting here for days knowing a bomb is going to drop into my life at any moment now. Twin ES bdays are today. Ordered them both nice but simple gifts that were delivered yesterday with a simple "happy bday, we love you". One ES won't even notice...
- Hi friends. It is a blessing to have this place to come to because there doesn't seem to be any other most of the time. We have a difficult few weeks coming up with multiple family birthdays, MIL and two ESs. MIL has involved herself to the...
- I keep trying to tell myself not to worry. But, today so much hit me that made me realize that worse things than I ever used to worry about have happened. I would have never imagined the things our ECs are doing right now they would do, and I used...
- Hi all! I've just been kind of in the background here holding my breath waiting for the holidays to be done. Today is our last "holiday" of the holiday season. Today is our "Gotcha Day" - the day we brought all of our kids home. In years past we...
- I was just hoping to slide by these holidays without any confrontation with the ECs. We didn't approach any of them but now ES1 seems to want to pick a fight with us, again. We aren't responding and hope this will pass until at least after the...
- What is everyone doing about gifts for Christmas? Ours are at varying degrees of estrangement but are close enough with each other to compare what they get, gift cards included. I know many won't send anything, we didn't to one last year. Just...
- I was just starting to get to a better place with all of this. But last night we discovered something ES did this week and it gutted us. I feel paralyzed with the weight of it and have subconsciously and unintentionally placed myself at his...
- For several years when people would ask me if I had read any good books lately I would say "no, I don't really read much other than the Bible". I used to read and buy book after book about parenting. Foo. Nothing worked, nothing helped, it was...
- I came across this old saying a few days ago and it jumped off the page to me. The ES that both DH and I were closest to has been the most hurtful to us by far. I now feel like, unknowingly, we let him become too close to us. We had bonding...