Dracona
Status: May the Water cleanse you, Air teach you, Fire drive you, and Earth be a foundation for you. Blessed Be.
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- I copied this from my journal entry, thought i could share it here. My bf has completely flown off the deep end, to the point of snapping at me and yelling at me.he was in my face the other day, screaming, took the pillow i had propped behind my...
- I lost my first on april 19th, such a short time ago. me and my BF have been having problems. im not even sure how i feel about the whole relationship anymore. all he does is annoy me, and make me feel like i have to play mom to him. like i have to...
- we are not attracted to stable healthy and lovable men. in fact, we often cant love a man who does not need our "fixing" we are simply not attracted. for anyone who has even gone on a date with a "nice guy" we usually write them off as friends. This...
- we try to stall our depression by the exitment provided through an unstable relationship.The ups and downs, and surprises cause a shock to your system, releasing adrenaline.we unconciously seek these situations to keep us keyed up, to avoid the...
- We want to fix people. we find chaotic situations, to keep from focusing on our own responsibilities. we are very good at "knowing" what someone else feels or figureing out what someone else needs or should do. we are not in touch with our own...
- We use our obsession with the men we love to avoid our pain, emptiness, fear, and anger. we use our relationship as drugs, to avoid experiencing what we would feel if we held our own. The more painful the relationship, the better the distraction. a...
- We live in a fantasy world, where the man we are so unhappy with is transformed into what we are sure he can become. Will become with our help. Because we know nothing about what it is to be happy, or having our emotional needs met, the "dream' is...
- Having experienced little security in the past, we mask our need and efforts to control people and situations by "being helpful" We need to be with people who we can help, (needy friends, needy men) in order to feel safe and in control. Protecting...
- we do not believe that deep inside we deserve to be happy. we believe somehow we must earn the right to enjoy life through sacrifice. we feel we harbor some terrible fault and flaw and we have to do good to make up for it. We live with guilt that we...
- if a person with different history found herself in our circumstances, she would be able to say, this feels awful, im not going to continue to do this anymore. We assume that if it isnt working then we havent done enough to make it work. we watch...
- We are willing to wait, hope and try harder and harder to pleaseWe believe that as adults, it is up to us to make our relationships work. we find blaming, irresponsible partners who contribute to our sense that it really is all up to us. we carry...
- Nothing is too much trouble, takes too much time, or is too expensive if it will "help" the man we are with. The theory is that if it works, he will become everything we want and need, which means we win the struggle for the love and understanding...
- Because you were never able to change your parents/guardians/ into the warm loving caretakers you longed for and needed to teach you, you respond deeply to the familiar type of emotionally unavailable man, whom you can again try to change through...
- Life stories are long, so bear with me : )I come from a severely dysfunctional home, my mother used love as a tool to get what she wanted from you, and she constantly fought with my step dad and blamed it on me. she would tell me many times she...
- You will do anything to keep the relationship in tact. abandonment is a strong word, it implies bieng left, possibly to die because we may not be able to survive alone.every woman who loves too much has experience emotional abandonment. Being left...