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- Today is the anniversary of me signing the divorce papers. At the time, it was the most crushing, heart wrenching thing I have ever had to do. I considered that day as the worst day in my life. However, I don't feel the same way today.I am...
- I have read a lot of posts by people that have cheated on their spouse. There seems to be a common theme. Most of the time, the cheater shifts blame - my spouse was neglectful, didn't pay attention to me, was an alcoholic (or other addict), spent...
- I had my boys tonight. My ex was supposed to go to a mother/daughter thing the school sponsored. She asked me to take the boys so she wouldn't have to find a sitter for the boys. I didn't have any other plans so I was glad to be able to have some...
- I hear a lot of comments from people either filing for divorce or being served, that bemoan the fact that their stbx did not accept them for 'who they really are'. How many people enter into the relationship and communicate enough with their...
- I believe I am finally to the point that I can let go of the relationship that I had with my ex-wife. I realize that holding on has only prolonged the pain of the loss. I will still mourn the loss of love that I felt for so long, but I believe I...
- I read a book titled "The Emotionally Abusive Relationship" and learned a lot about why I have felt the way I did in my former marriage. My ex-wife was emotionally detached, selfish, neglectful, and emotionally abusive through most of our marriage....
- I am a care-giver by nature. I want to support those that I care about by expressing support and doing whatever I can. I did this a lot in my former marriage.I found out yesterday that a fried of my ex-wife died. My instinct was to call her and...
- This is the most difficult thing I have ever had to do. I know in my mind that the relationship I had with my ex was very dysfunctional and that continuing in the relationship would have only resulted in more pain, frustration, and sadness. I also...
- I want to get a kind of concensus here on how people process the way they are feeling.It seems that men are more introspective. We tend to isolate ourselves and figure out how we feel without the influence of those around us. Once we have figured...
- I have been seeing a therapist to help me deal with the greif of loss due to my divorce. Through the process, I have been able to identify the things that I want in a future relationship. I have put together a list of "must haves" of a future...
- My ex and I have agreed to sit down and have a discussion. This is at her request ... and she asked me if I wanted my therapist to be there. I have scheduled an appointment and set aside time to have this discussion. When we agreed to this...
- I had surgery last fall to remove a herniated disc from my neck and had a fusion of the C5-C6 vertibrae. I have been given the go ahead to resume lifting. I have noticed that I can't do an overhead shoulder press (military press) without really...
- I have a lot of very fond memories of my marriage. My happiest memories are ones that I shared with my ex-wife. These memories have always been a "safe place" to let my mind wander to when I have been stressed or feeling down. Now, however, there...
- I am 40 years old, 6'-7" tall and have been thin my entire life. I have recently started to get a bit of a spare tire around the midsection and I would like to "redistribute" the weight primarily to my upper body and arms but I am looking for...
- My ex-wife was very emotionally abusive to me in our relationship. She wasn't this way for the first couple of years but it started soon thereafter and got worse as time went by. She was selfish, manipulative, controlling, and could not control...