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- I went to my 2nd Al-anon meeting and I started to work the steps. I'm on the 4-5th step. I recently realized I am codependent however it has nothing to do with drugs or alcohol addiction. My codependence has to do with a friend. She is not toxic....
- How do we forgive? Please someone tell me how are we suppose to forgive our perpetrator? How do I forgive my mother for not supporting me? Face to face confrontation will not work due to the fact that my mother died years ago and the abuser has...
- So I asked earlier about coda vs al anon meeting. I got great replies so I decided to go to a local al anon meeting. Well in the parking lot I saw someone I work with. I knew she attended the meetings but didn't know which one. I don't think she saw...
- Currently I live about an hour away from my coda meeting. And its only on saturdays. I work every other saturday and sometimes have to work the ones I'm off. There are several Al anon meetings in my area pretty close to me. My question is are they...
- So how do we let go of shame? The negative shame that we as codependents tend to place on ourselves. No one knows how shameful I feel about my issues. For me its about keeping up the facade. I can't be percieved as being "weak". I think I will bring...
- Well it wasn't until about a month ago that I realized I was copdependent. Yes, yet another label...woohoo! I went to my first coda meeting today and it was a positive experience. My intention was to sit there and listen not to speak or interact on...
- Why is it that I know what I have to do as far as breaking up the negative thoughts and "choosing" to change my mood etc, etc but sometimes I become defiant and do the "wrong" thing anyway, As if to teach myself a lesson. Who am I kidding? Anyone...
- I'm asking for advice concerning triggers. More times than not when I'm confronted with one of my triggers I forget to breathe and not react. Sometimes I can catch myself but mostly NOT. Its quit frustrating. Does anyone have any advice? Any little...
- So how can we productively release all these bottled up emotions and feelings that are stemming from our past? I know a lot of my anger is towards my mother, who died when I was 19. Any suggestion? Maybe something your therapist suggested or...
- As many of us know, being sexually abused as a child can leave many scars. One for me is not trusting men or myself for that matter.Does anyone have any suggestions on good books for learning to trust again?
- I look to female friends, usually one friend at a time, for emotional support I didn't get from my mother after being sexually abused. This dependence is quit annoying not to mention painful. My friend knows nothing about this dependence. And once I...
- I'm getting a shamanistic facilitation and I was wondering if anyone had any experience with this? I've heard good feedback.
- I know I have intimacy issues and I'm working on them. I have come so far in such a small amount of time. I'm feeling left behind with everyone around me relationships and getting married or are married. I know I need to fall in love with myself and...
- I have a problem with sexual intimacy. I love sex but the anticipation of sex is what scares me, not to the point where I can't perform but to the point where I resent it. Once things get started, its okay. However, sometimes i feel like sex is...
- I just realized that sometimes I make a mountain out of a mole hill in my mind. For example, if I'm dating someone, and it doesn't work out, I automatically think its me. Like I'm damaged goods. Why does it have to be my fault? Why can't it just be...