Sexual Abuse Support Group
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I know I have intimacy issues and I'm working on them. I have come so far in such a small amount of time. I'm feeling left behind with everyone around me relationships and getting married or are married. I know I need to fall in love with myself and see myself worthy of being loved. I just recently broke up with someone who was falling in love with me but I wasn't feeling the same way. I know, intellectually, I'm worthy of love. But down deep inside, I'm feeling unworthy and it hurts to see my friends and family going on with life and I'm stuck. Don't get me wrong, I'm glad they are happy and healthy. I just want that for me. I guess I'm feeling pitty for myself. I know this to will pass. PLEASE...words of encouragment!
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have you thought of courting yourself? Take yourself out to nice dinner. Buy just-because flowers. Take a long soak in the tub surrounded by scented candles. Right love peomes, make lists of all your good attributes. Dress to turn heads, but tell yourself "none of them are good enough". Go clubbing and flirt, see who you can get to flirt back with you. just some thought.
deleted_user
It will be hard seeing people around you in love but your time will come and you will fall in love when you least expect it. I was at school with my boyfriend and never saw him like that. We started going our after my birthday party, I never expected that and here we are 2 years later. It will happen for you, be patient. You are worthy x
deleted_user
I am trying to do something like this aswell so I know how it feels. I have been in so many relationships just because I couldn't handle being on my own (and other reasons...)but they where all not quite right and following similar patterns. Now I am single and I feel like I have developed much more this way than when I was in these relationships. Also from an outside point of view I probably looked really happy and relationshippy and secure blah blah! But on the inside it was not good! I bought myself some flowers the other day and it has made me feel good and it was better than if I had got them from one of those relationships! I think I am trying to say keep going!!
stefanie68
thank you all for your replies. i'm learning to love myself and its harder than i thought. but i will persevere! thx to all of you and your kind words. thx again.
deleted_user
It will happen for you. But you're right- you need to love yourself and see yourself as worthy of being loved. Your heartneeds healing. Be very good to yourself. Eat properly, get some exercise, get good sleep. ANd treat yoursself to somethiing that makes you feel happy. Of course you want what they have- you're a human being, and we're wired to want that. But if you get yourself sorted first, it's far more likely to go well when it does happen. You'll have more positive energy to contribute to the relationship. Keep your chin up, it will happen for you, too, when the timing is right.
Desertdancer
I've felt the same way you have. I'm in a relationship now, and I miss all that alone time I used to have. I think the right relationship comes along when we are ready -- it made me mad to hear this when someone said I first needed to become my beautiful, complete self before I would attract the type of man I wanted. But it made me start focusing on becoming who I wanted to be rather than spending so much time dreaming of meeting the perfect man.
deleted_user
As I have been told in time it will come. We first have to learn to love and trust ourselves before we can return that love. You are not having pitty on yourself. I know how this feels my siblings are all married and my friends and it hurts a lot of the time because that is all I want out of life is to be happy and to go on in life. I hope that some day soon it will happen but I have been told it will come when it is right for me. Good luck hope this helps.
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