By the way, Randii, it was a bad link on the song. Try again.

try again: http://www.YouTube.com/watch?v=fWcs1GmJRQs

Hi, I’m Ron and I’m a compulsive liar. First post, new to the group, been an addict to mostly everything, alcohol, marijuana, sex, and lying all through it. Been in various 12-step recovery programs and haven’t drank or used drugs for over 23 years, sex addiction recovery for over three years, but the lying has continued in other ways. I justify it by assigning “noble” reasons, like to keep my wife from feeling bad, lie mostly about money, don’t spend it secretly or unwisely, just don’t tell her about it when business is bad and try to make ends meet and when they don’t, she finds out and it is worse. Starting today, must be open about all business activities. She is my partner and deserves to know the truth.

I’m a little confused. I posted the previous yesterday and don’t see it today on the daily check in page. I wanted to add that I also am dealing with an overeating addiction, wow, so many things. Does anyone read this? I need to find support online as there are no LA meetings in my area.

I also responded to randii telling her I wanted to hear the song but the link didn’t work. Is anybody out there? Maybe I’m not using the right format.

now, on page refresh I see your response, randii, am listening now...

Great Song! BUT… SHE can’t change me, only I can and I must.

The pain I have caused her over years is soooo great. I have been able to justify all “lying by omission” as “to save her being upset,” but in reality, when it was discovered, the pain and upset was greater.

Hi, I'm Ron, a compulsive liar, and I'm checking in today. Well, I'm wondering if anyone ever uses this group. Does anyone check in? Are there any online meetings? Is anyone else out there who wants recovery and honesty?

I check in... it happens. I'm almost back up to a week of full honesty again... I blew it last Sunday night when a lie I had told to myself came out in conversation and became a lie I told to someone else, who promptly busted me on it. :( I'm grateful for the realization that I had been unaware or lying to myself (
i think that amounts to the same thing, in the end) but it started my tally from scratch.

Right now, I'm hiding out at a buddy's cabin and soaking in my own thoughts, which is getting kinda overwhelming, but I need somehow to come out of this less desperate for my failed/failing relationship so that it won't fuel me to lie or be desperate/pathetic. At the end of this, I need to be calm, cool, and collected, so that I can most effectively discuss the relationship and not lie.

Tough stuff, this is.

Well, to me it looks like it’s just you and me that ever come to check the site. I'm sorry you continue to have trouble, but you seem diligent in your pursuit of recovery. Yes, it is tough stuff.

Hi
My name is D and I am addicted to lying. Are you two the only ones around nowadays-just found this online group today. Feels like I will be talking to myself. Lying is destroying the relationship between me and the best friend I have ever had. Maybe I want that as she makes me question myself and feel the pain and fear that has been my life so far. I want to be so much more alive but that is so fearful to me that I push her away with lies. It is so automatic that it is scary and no one has ever called me on it so I have gotten away with it for my life that it is now ingrained in me and I don't want it anymore.. It is very damaging and so exhausting to me and my friend who I see I am draining so much energy from that she can never fully trust me again. I will start tomorrow-no , now and keep a notebook with me and be honest for one day, then two, then three....one day at a time, right?

some questions for everyone, mainly just to vent whats on my mind

Do you believe that I deserve to be happy even after all the lies I've told?
And for those who believe in karma, do you think I won't get what I truly want, as a consequence for the lies Ive told?

I'm Cindy and I'm a liar and i am setting a goal to not tell a lie or exaggerate tomorrow. Small steps! Nice to meet you Russ and Dave. I am thankful you are both in this group. I need support

I think choosing to be honest now will give you good karma Vstar96. I believe that you deserve to be happy. None of us are perfect. I am sure you never set out to be a liar in life. Circumstances in our lives drive us to do things like lie. I am learning for the first time in my life how happy it makes me when I am really honest about everything. Its like losing weight. Like I am shedding pounds of lies when I just tell the truth.

Karma.... well, dunno about that, but there will be consequences, and stopping lying does nothing to prevent past lies from coming back to us. Still, I believe that by stopping from creating further lies and further consequences, our lives will improve... and if you believe in karma, that should also improve.

I like your reply randi. This is day 4 for me since admitting that I am a compulsive liar. I told 3 lies on day1, 1 on day2, and none yesterday (although I feel like I did do a lie of omission). Today is day 4. I see how destructive lying has been to my relationships and I may lose one of my closest friends due to this addiction. Does anyone have insights on to why they lie? Do you think it is important to know why before they can truely change?
I know I lie for various reasons: to not make someone angry by telling them what I think they want to hear (being the good girl), to make myself look better, smarter, not admitting I don't know something, but the little stupid lies, I can not figure out why I tell them except it is such an ingrained habit from childhood.