My name is Bob and I am a liar

I'm John, and I'm a liar.

I agree about the phone transparency. If you have nothing to hide, then there's nothing to hide.

I didn't use to think that way. I thought that privacy was important, even in a relationship. But I got that wrong. Privacy, and trying to keep privacy in your relationship, breeds a nice place to be dishonest.

What I should have known was the difference between private and personal. And personal things you should be able to share with your spouse/partner.

It's tough right now because my wife has access to my phone 24/7, any time she wants. And she can ask questions about anything. And she does. And I can't help but get defensive when it goes on too long. And then when I get defensive, it appears to her that I'm nervous she'll find something I don't want her to find, which is no longer the case. So she looks and looks and looks, and questions and questions, and in the end puts it down. I just have to learn to be patient in those times because I have nothing to hide.

Hello my name is Sam and I am a liar. I'm tired of hurting the ones closest to me.

The infamous phone!! I have always left my phone transparent. When I had the habit of lying I would be constantly questioned regarding why I txt so and so. Even if this was a work related individual the content of the txt would be scrutinized and even though totally innocent I was made to feel like I was having "emotional" relationships with coworkers. Drove me insane. But my behavior drove those suspicions. My phone remains open. My partner now leaves it be. She uses it when convient and will occasionally comment on content if it's visible. However, the need to exam looking for inconsistencies has gone with my development of an open and truthful existence in all aspects of my life. This did not occur overnight. It has been nice to ascend to this level of comfort and trust and belief in my sincerity. Eighty something days behind and a life time to go! It really does come down to believing in yourself with the quirks and defects that make us individuals. If that is not the person your partner/spouse wants then it ain't going to work anyway! We still disagree on things (but I have learned if it's a trivial issue she is always right Ha ha)! Keep pounding/keep moving forward!

My name is Lucy, I'm a liar and I joined this group almost a month ago. I haven't checked in every day and I haven't kept track of the days. I have been lie-free since I joined though, and everything in my life is getting better. Keep at the honesty and openness. As for the phone - I think openness and honesty is a two-way street. I don't feel the need to check my husband's phone, but since he gives me no reason to distrust him I don't need to. I'd feel differently if I felt he was hiding something from me. And I don't think it would be a problem if I did check it.

Working on me. Hope all are well.

Checking in. It's a month since I joined this group and it has been one of the best things I could have done.
Thank you everyone for your support this far, I have been honest and open for a month now and I don't know if I could have done it alone. It has really helped to know I'm not the only person struggling, and it has made me stronger. I'm Lucy, and I'm a liar, but I've been honest for four weeks now.

TGIF Truth, Gratitude, integrity, faith! We can all get this right. I heard a beautiful metaphor regarding faith. It is the sound that the Song bird makes just before the dawn. The faith that indeed the sun will rise even before the first light shines! Keep the faith and be kind to yourself! All have a great weekend!!!

I'm John, and I'm a liar.

Having a rough time right now, but being honest in the face of adversity. It's hard because it is in my nature to get myself out of adversity as quickly as possible. But staying true, it passes. Till it happens again. But you know that you've survived it once before, and it becomes a little easier.

It's like walking against a really strong wind. Your goal is to get though it because your home is in front of you, so you have to walk through it no matter how hard. Because you only want to get home. And only home. If you give into the wind, who knows where you end up.

So, keep moving forward all. Fight.

Good morning my name is Brittany and I am a recovering liar.
I have this positive attitude that I am sticking with and it is helping me a lot.. Everything is becoming more meaningful and holds weight in my life... I wish I could have discovered my flaws years ago...

Today my body is kind of restless because I have thrown my sleep schedule off. However, other than that I'm just pushing threw with my journey.
All is well be safe and stay strong.

Days 55-59...still keeping truthful with myself FIRST and family and friends second..there will always be challenges to tell the truth....example those in your past popping up out in contacting you out of nowhere asking how you are doing? Which is ok for the most part...but when they ask you how you are DOING (you know what l mean) all kinds of bells and whistles should go off. In times past l would have lied and said no just to get with that person. Not this time...l bold stated l am doing well and in a relationship. The respect was immediately given and the convo ended. A swell of pride rose up in me because l told the truth and it was so satisfying! My mom always you cant tell everyone everything because doesn't need to know...that is not lying that is being particular of who and what you share in your circle.
As fas as the convos about cell phones l have been through that and used to hide it as well...not any more. Password is on when out but off when l am with her...nothing else to hide people...that part of lying is what got us here in the first place. #KeepPounding

Brittany, I love your internal happiness. It is true that when we get ourselves right the world around us responds in kind. I believe we manifest what we think/behave. If we choose to lie and deceive the world brings us like interactions. It is hard to be down/sad/unhappy when the person you are interacting with is personifying excitement and happiness. Keep pounding and moving forward all!!!

Good Evening all this is my daily check in today church was so inspiring. The topic was raising the standard. Raising the standard for yourself for your kids for your relationship for you home raising the standard in the work place and for your goals. To all I say be above average and keep pushing

Making amends is not about saying you are sorry. It is accepting your responsibility and admitting your hurts and living differently, in a way where those previous behaviors do not repeat themselves. All be well! Love your post Brittany! Stay positive!! Keep pounding!!!

112 days, it's been way too long since my last check in. I feel like life has been a whirlwind lately, but I've stayed steadfast in my struggle to stay truthful, I wish I could say that after 100 days the urge to lie isn't their, but it is. It comes and goes, so it gets a little tougher, it will sneak up on you and you have to be ready for it. There has still been a few moments where, I start but then stop myself and take a deep breath and then continue, its awkward but at least it isn't a lie. Carry on everyone, fighting human nature is hard, don't give up.